Hello
i'm a single mother with 3 kids in the age of 6 8 and 11
ive been raising them alon since always because my hisband Was a lot away
my parents are dead and im living in france just so that my kids can be next to their father
3 years ago i met someone and it was right away a big love between us, we had lots of things in commun and loved spending time together
the only problem is that this guy is auit up tight and gets stressed from everything
Im just the opposite, Im more laid back and take things in a.less heavy way
my 3 kids are good kids, they behave well at school and have good grades,
at home they foght and sometimes i have hard time with them like other kids their age
Im doing my best to educate them but its not always easy alon, but iM trying
this guy and had a lot of trouble being around my kids and kept critising my parenting skills, giving my hard time because of my kids
with no sensitivity to my situation
when he came with his kids to my house he used to sit with them and explain how bad are my kids and how they need to not learn from them
he couldnt stand them and sometimes got quit agressive, yellling at me because of them
we broke up few times and came back again and again, we relly love each other and suffer a lot when not together
my kids always tlked about him in a good way, my son relly likes him
last year we started to talk about getting married, i told my kids and they were happy
few weeks ago he come for a week end with his kids, he said some to my 8 y daughter, she answered in a not nice way
then he took her hand tokk her to the next room and spanked her 4 times
i let him take her because i thought he just wanted to talk to her, of course now i feel guilty
after that we broke up
the sad thing is that my daughter is blaming me for breaking it because my kids rzally liked him and his kids
she keeps saying it didnt really hurt, and makes me feel even worse, why i let my boyfriend hit her without saying anything
so now weR not
people tell me its for the best, that he added a lot of stress to a life that is not always easy
sayingnits good it happened before the wedding, telling me he must be an agressive person
i feel horrible for what happend, miss him a lot and ask my self questions
am i really that bad mother ? and could i avoid this stiuation ?
and if he's not the right person for me why is it so hard to let go ?
are kids just an external problem that can be solved or it can become a real nightmer to live
my kids love him but he can not stand them especially my daughter
what w