mediation and loss of friends
These have been the worst two years of my life. I have posted here before but this is an update. I will be going into mediation this Friday with my two horrid stepkids about their father's trust. If this doesn't work I will throw up my hands altogether. I just lost another friend this morning. I suspect she's taken their side, as have so many. I've lost my entire family and no one seems to care. Things are a bit better with my oldest granddaughter but only because I sent her a big check. I am so done. While I still grieve their father, I am so angry with him over leaving me in this mess, and angry at myself for not seeing this train wreck coming. Almost 20 years of my life wasted on those two ingrates. People ask me why I'm not looking for another partner and I laugh. No thank you. Unfortunately, I'm much better off on my own. If things don't go well, I will just rent the house and move somewhere else. I've lost so many people it hardly matters where I go so long as my cat comes with me!
Wish me luck on Friday. Thanks. and for those of you living with Disney dads and mean step children, get out while you can! It only gets worse, sorry to say.
Lucy, the very best luck to
Lucy, the very best luck to you. If you have lost a friend who takes the Skids side, you are not losing much. If this friend deserts you, believing skids, you can be sure they would not be there for you if you really needed them. Eventually, they will learn the truth.
A number of years ago I had a situation in which lies were being told about me and people were believing them. There was one time when a person I had never met knocked on my door to tell me off. Well, eventually the truth DID come out, and guess what? Not one apology. Instead, the people who had deserted me were more focused on their experience with the liars. The good thing is I found out who my true friends were.
I sincerely hope you win. (((HUGS)))
Thanks for the support from
Thanks for the support from all of you. Sandy, I have lost so many friends since my husband died and with this continuing saga with his kids. You are right that friends who turn away from you aren't worth much. It's a tough lesson to learn but an important one. My best friend lives in another state and she has never let me down. Yes, I can rent the house and it looks like I'll be moving in that direction unless something big breaks on Friday and my expectations are very low. I so appreciate your support here. It breaks my heart to read about so many awful situations.
I am so sorry...this
I am so sorry...this continues to be my fear...sigh. Did he not have a will? These pathetics kids are aholes...99% of them! I have seen it so many freaking times! And they are adults and people still see them as kids and feel sorry for them! Makes me sick!
A big hug to you. I can't imagine your pain, but I am truly sorry.
PS once over send them a fU letter! And let them know how pathetic they are!
Lucy51, I am glad you gave us
Lucy51, I am glad you gave us an update. I have been wondering how you were doing.
Please keep posting on here as we can support you from afar! You are not the crazy one.
Are you in counseling? If not , it may help.
If you are like so many of us here, you have probably let this taken over your whole life. Can you try for starters to just take an hour out of this day to block the whole mess out of your brain and go do something just for you? They win regardless of the outcome Friday because they wanted to destroy you and you are letting them. Your mental health is not worth all the money in the world!
Big hugs and prayers! We are rooting for you!
Towanda, Yes, I have a
Towanda,
Yes, I have a therapist and I know I should be better about putting it out of my mind. I try, but with the mediation coming up about the only way to escape it is to sleep. I know I need to keep my cool in mediation. It's just not easy to have people bad mouthing you. We all like to hold ourselves in high esteem and think that we're good people. With these two, it's hard for me to keep those beliefs up. But I am doing my best. Sometimes I just need to rant.
Sorry about your loss,
Sorry about your loss, thinking of you as well. Don't let the adult brats get you down. Moving will probably be a good thing to get away and start afresh. Try and remain positive and good luck for Friday. A friend who has never been a step-parent has no fcuking idea how mean and manipulative skids are- but we do here.