Taking SD on Vacation???
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My DH just suggested that we take SD on vacation to Florida (Disney World, etc.). I do not have children of my own yet (we are planning to have them but we just recently got married and I want to enjoy the time we do have alone for a little bit first) so I really don't want to run around Disney World with someone else's kid. I would rather wait until we have a kid of our own and then we can all go. Besides that, I just don't want to spend more time around SD than I have to- and it certainly would be no vacation for me! So my question is, would you just suck it up and go on the vacation (keep in mind, I would have to fund most of this vacation because I make double what DH makes) or would you tell him straight up you do not want to go?
I can't believe he even
I can't believe he even suggested this.. he said WE should start putting money away to take SD to Florida.. Ha! Why should I put away money to take YOUR kid on vacation?? WHY??
True. I just don't want to go
True. I just don't want to go on vacation with her. I will be miserable the entire time. We just got back from a couple's vacation so I guess he thinks it's time for a "family" vacation.
Thanks for the input. My
Thanks for the input. My other issue is that she's only 4 so she can't walk very far without getting tired and complaining and I just don't think she is ready for Disney World. But I guess if DH wants to pay, we can try it. I just don't want to put my money toward it.
Omg my sd6 asked if we would
Omg my sd6 asked if we would take her to Disney land, I would rather eat my own toe nails, just tell hubby that you don't want to go, surrounded by screaming kids ahhh, plus sd will propably get over excited and have a tantrum, we don't have a lot of money at the moment so when we go on holiday it will just be the two of us, remember its your cash and your time, just say no, when I had known sd6 for a while, fdh suggested sd stay for a week, I had just gone past the stage of hyperventilating when she was due to visit, I went to stay with friends for the week, I told fdh that if he pushed me too much, I would start resenting sd, things are better now, but holidays no way! If you went and it was a nightmare, it would just push you the wrong way.
Ha ha perhaps a little
Ha ha perhaps a little extreme, I would rather take my sd for a bike ride, a picnic or a farm.
I'm all for the suggestion of
I'm all for the suggestion of him taking her by himself and you staying home and pampering yourself.
Eww no way no day would I
Eww no way no day would I save my own money to take skids to Disneyworld.
LOL! Thanks for all the
LOL! Thanks for all the responses! I agree, 4 is too young for Disney. She's not going to remember and she will just be a pain in the butt the whole time. I am all for doing day trips near our house but FL is about 15 hours from us, which is a whole other issue- driving for 15 hours or flying with a 4 year old. I choose neither!! }:)
I regularly took my kids on
I regularly took my kids on weekend and summer vacation camping trips so my new wife did not have to be involved. The second week of my vacation was with her - alone.
You have an absolute right to not include anyones kid on your holiday's. Once a year you get to quit working for an extended time of relaxation and have to tromp around some silly 'amusement' park?
No - vacation is for a break from work to re-charge and the same is true of weekends. He's in charge of 'amusing' the kid - you're not the hired babysitter.
In my opinion, vacations that
In my opinion, vacations that are centered exclusively around kids are unhealthy for the parents. Plus, Disney World is a giant overpriced money machine.
At the very least, a vacation should be planned that would satisfy all of you. Maybe the beach or something would be better. It should be a place where you can get some alone time if DH and SD are getting the best of you.
He should take her on his
He should take her on his own! That's what I would suggest. Because you'll prob be miserable there with her around (been there). Plus if she knows she has her daddy all to herself she wont think of you as the women whos stepping between so its a win win for everybody!!
I would suggest to say
I would suggest to say no.This trip maybe so expensive that you and SO miss out on your own adult vacation, did I get that right? SO will need to understand that this is not fair.Once you have a child you can take both children there, but right now I don't see why you should waste your time and money on this trip for the guilty daddddy to feel less guilty when instead you two could lay on a nice beach in peace with cocktails and relaxation!!!!