I can see the point on videos, but I don't see the problem with, say, a small photo for him to have in his wallet. How often do you have SS? How do you think BM would feel about it?
We have him 50% of the time. His mother im sure is not thrilled, but she cant say anything because ss is the one that wants them. Im not sure why it bothers me perhaps like ripley I want there to be a separation there. I would not like having to see pics of bm in my house.
It's a little weird. But then again, I'm not close at all w/my skids so I can't imagine them ever wanting a pic of me. If they did, there would probably be something about it that bothered me a little, but I can't put my finger on what or why exactly. Hmm.
I have one pic of Nasty up in the SKids bedrooms. Have you thought of making him a little photo album that he put pics into & he can cart that between the two homes?
I think it's sweet that he wants to include both you & your BS in his collection of pictures.
I think it's sweet. I wouldn't keep my own kids from bringing photos of me to wherever they may go, so I wouldn't keep my stepkids from doing it, either.
Even if it did bother me, this just isn't a battle I would pick to fight.
I think that is sweet. How old is he? Does he have a wallet or school binder he could keep it in, so it doesn't have to linger at BM's house but he can have it with him?
SS wanted to take pix of us to his BM's house and I was thrilled because it means he is bonded to us (including me!) and wants to be reminded of us when he's at BM's. He took a couple pictures of us to his BM's - one was a group shot of the 3 of us and one was a picture of him hugging our dog. I don't think BM could really glean much info from a photo and I also don't much care if she's bothered by it.
I also wouldn't say a word if SS wanted a pic of BM at our house. I wouldn't love it, but I respect that he has a bond with her and if he wants a picture that's just fine. The poor lil guy is spending his childhood shuttling between 2 completely different households, I feel like it wouldn't be my place to dictate whether he has pix of his loved ones with him wherever he goes.
I guess it would depend on who the BM is - I mean, is she going to use the pics to throw darts at? lol. When my son was younger, he had difficulty handling that he had 2 seperate lives between me and his dad, and anything he could do to meld the 2 lives together in some way helped him....so I think it would be quite healthy, and actually, quite flattering to you that he would want to do that.
I can see the point on
I can see the point on videos, but I don't see the problem with, say, a small photo for him to have in his wallet. How often do you have SS? How do you think BM would feel about it?
We have him 50% of the time.
We have him 50% of the time. His mother im sure is not thrilled, but she cant say anything because ss is the one that wants them. Im not sure why it bothers me perhaps like ripley I want there to be a separation there. I would not like having to see pics of bm in my house.
It's a little weird. But
It's a little weird. But then again, I'm not close at all w/my skids so I can't imagine them ever wanting a pic of me. If they did, there would probably be something about it that bothered me a little, but I can't put my finger on what or why exactly. Hmm.
I have one pic of Nasty up in
I have one pic of Nasty up in the SKids bedrooms. Have you thought of making him a little photo album that he put pics into & he can cart that between the two homes?
I think it's sweet that he wants to include both you & your BS in his collection of pictures.
I don't think it is wrong at
I don't think it is wrong at all...
It is how you feel..
I would not like it either....wouldn't trust our BM bitch for nothing!
Nor would I want her to know any part of my life!
I think it's sweet. I
I think it's sweet. I wouldn't keep my own kids from bringing photos of me to wherever they may go, so I wouldn't keep my stepkids from doing it, either.
Even if it did bother me, this just isn't a battle I would pick to fight.
I think that is sweet. How
I think that is sweet. How old is he? Does he have a wallet or school binder he could keep it in, so it doesn't have to linger at BM's house but he can have it with him?
Probably a locket isn't appropriate.
SS wanted to take pix of us
SS wanted to take pix of us to his BM's house and I was thrilled because it means he is bonded to us (including me!) and wants to be reminded of us when he's at BM's. He took a couple pictures of us to his BM's - one was a group shot of the 3 of us and one was a picture of him hugging our dog. I don't think BM could really glean much info from a photo and I also don't much care if she's bothered by it.
I also wouldn't say a word if SS wanted a pic of BM at our house. I wouldn't love it, but I respect that he has a bond with her and if he wants a picture that's just fine. The poor lil guy is spending his childhood shuttling between 2 completely different households, I feel like it wouldn't be my place to dictate whether he has pix of his loved ones with him wherever he goes.
I guess it would depend on
I guess it would depend on who the BM is - I mean, is she going to use the pics to throw darts at? lol. When my son was younger, he had difficulty handling that he had 2 seperate lives between me and his dad, and anything he could do to meld the 2 lives together in some way helped him....so I think it would be quite healthy, and actually, quite flattering to you that he would want to do that.