If you look at my last post "SS11... runsway" it can fill you in. Here's the latest.
I made a suggestion to BF that we probably need a reward system for SS11 to get him to do his homework and hand it in. His response was "well we have to do something different other than what we've done in the past" So I asked him if Friday's event was my fault? He said no, but that I need to take some responsibility. So I asked him what I should have done differently? He said I should have given him a day to clean out his locker. That would have been tomorrow and wanted me to check on it after his practice. First of all we don't have custody until Wednesday. That would be another 3 days. So he said, so what? Your son has not done what you asked of him for the last 3 days of school, I'm trying to follow through because your'e working way after the school is locked.

But I'm the rotten step mom? Am I missing something here?

The issue was not the locker...but the fact his son is losing his papers and not handing in his stuff or doing his homework. I carried all his shit from his locker because he refused and he and BF organized his binders. But I made him clean out his locker?

So he tells me to take out all the suggestions a community councelor/teacher gave us and see what other things would work. I said...you need to take out the papers and see what will work. Because no matter what I try, I will be the escape goat for skid, you and BM. I have already raised 3 children, two of them with needs...I'm done. Of course in BF's mind that was the wrong thing also. He feels I should not back out and "that's what I always do".

I feel everything is working in the same exact way BM, BF, Skids and me, when BM was instituting her PAS. Only this time, I'm not gonna be a player in the game.

So what should I do?