I Don't want ss9 and my newborn together
I have a bs9 and a ss9 and I also have a newborn son 5 months old. I have this thing against my ss9 that I just dont trust the little boy. I told my husband I will not leave my newborn in the same room alone with his son. I let my son age 9 hold my son all the time if I have to go to the rest room etc. and he plays with his little brother. But when it comes to my husband's son I cant even allow him to touch him. here is why:
when my new born was bornmy husband's kids ages 18,161 and the 9 year old came to see the baby. The evil little ss9 gave the baby the look of death, he didnt think anyone saw himbut I did. and everytime he comes to visit he has that same look on his face. my newborn loves his brother my son to death, he lights up when he sees him. and I encourage that. BUT this one even though it's also his brother I keep him away.
when I was out shopping one day I came back and my husband told me that he caught his son my ss throwing my puppy on the ground. he would pick him up and throw him and then pick him up and throw my puppy again. I was furious when I heard this. I asked him about it and he tried to say my son did it. But little did he know my husband already told me my son did not touch the puppy it was his son. I really dislike the little liar, he lies so much, but tries to act innocent.
Personally I just wanted to vent, cause I dont feel I am wrong in my gut that this boy will try to do something to the baby. heck he tries to hit my 9 year old and they are the same age. so if he throws a puppy and tries to hit my son age 9 what would he do to a baby.
wow can so relate to your
wow can so relate to your post, I keep having nightmares that he drops a heavy toy on my son in his crib.
Last time he came to visit I had the baby monitor in my 9 year old room with them. and ss9 pushed my bs9 off the bed and said "I told you I was stronger than you" then later they started wresting as boys that age do and ss9 kicked my bs9 in the head because my son was winning. my son who is a black belt in martial arts punched ss9 in the eye after ss9 kicked him, which of course ss9 starts crying. I go in the room and asked what happen he said "I told him I didnt want to fight and he just walked up to me and punched me in the eye"
Little did the little demon know I heard the whole thing on the monitor. UGHH he lies sooo much.
so if he tries to hurt my son a black belt what would he do to a new born? not to mention how he threw my puppy, which I told him to NEVER tough my dog again.
My husband said I was too harsh and I should let him play with the dog again. yeah right! for him to throw him again I dont think so.
yeah I feel that way. when he
yeah I feel that way. when he is in school he throws temper tantrums in class too.
Go with your gut and keep the
Go with your gut and keep the crazy kid away from your sons!
Listen to your instincts and
Listen to your instincts and don't leave your baby with the kid for a second. When I was pregnant I caught my SD 4 pushing my elderly dog off the sofa while dog was sleeping. I also caught her smacking the dog more than once.
Once baby started crawling she took every opportunity to crawl into her sisters' room. I was in the bathroom across from their bedroom one day when SD4 pushed baby's head down onto the carpet and made her cry. Needless to say I don't let either of them out of my sight anymore even for a second. It's so disappointing. My DD was always trustworthy and would play in her room when she was that age. I could leave her at the table with paints and art supplies and never worry about what she was doing. SD4 destroys everything she can get her hands on.
OMG...tell birthdad he'll
OMG...tell birthdad he'll meet his son at one of the local burger places. WOW...I wouldn't want that demon around anything I loved.
I feel for you, I swewar, I'd install security cameras or tell the ss that you had cameras placed so you could keep an eye on everything. Wow....that is scary!!
Sounds to me that SS is
Sounds to me that SS is jealous of the baby, probably because he feels the baby is cheating him time with his dad whether that's the case or not, he may see it that way. I woudl suggest encouraging your husband to spend a little on-on-one time with SS and see if that helps the problem.
I agree, but check this out.
I agree, but check this out. I told dh exactly what you suggested once. I said to him you need to spend one on one time with your son, because I think he is jealous because you now have a new baby. and jealous of my son because he has his own bio dad he spends weekends with and he has my husband who he lives with, but his son lives at home with the biiter ex wife and no father figure in that home, so I know he is hurting that he doesnt have his dad full time. My husband's reply:
"you dont tell me when I should spend alone time with my son, I will decide when to do that, I want us ALL together on the weekends as a family"
I told him no can do partner, I have my own two children that I LOVE to spend alone time with. My son and I have a great time alone on weekend, we talk and he loves it. he doesnt want to feel like he has to be together as family all the time, he enjoys mommy and me time on Saturdays and he spends Sunday's with his own father.
what does my ss9 have? Nothing. I do feel for the kid in a way but I really just dont like him
This really concerns me as SD
This really concerns me as SD aged 6 expresses how much she'd hate to have a sibling and I would love to have a baby but fear she might throw it down the stairs out of jealousy!! My partner thinks this is ridiculous but why would it be when children can sometimes express their feelings in very obvious and worrying ways! Am I being too concerned? I never thought having kids would come with an additional concern of whether step sibling will want to get rid of it!!
Don't ignore your instincts,
Don't ignore your instincts, a mother's instincts are almost always correct.
I had the same concerns about my SD. My SD was 8 when my first bio was born. When my bio was 4 months, SD screamed "shut up" in her face when I ran to the car (to pack for a family vacation). Since then I have been very cautious and keep a watchful eye. SD is also abusive to animals. She is now 12 and my bios are 4 and 1 and she still gets physical with them, to the point that we are now sending her to her mom because I don't feel they are safe around her. Things like hitting, pinching and verbal abuse. At her age, I was babysitting my younger siblings and preparing meals for them...SD can't even be allowed alone in a room with them without someone getting hurt.
The thing is, some kids are loving and caring towards their siblings and some are just so disturbed that they cannot be "nice" to anyone. If you have any concern at all, do not ignore it. Do not leave them alone in a room. It doesn't mean that your SS will harm them, but he could, so keep a watchful eye and don't ignore signs that there could be trouble ahead.