I'm so sick to my stomach because I am so upset! I am telling DH tonight that I will no longer watch SS when DH works on Saturdays. It has always been my one day off and to spend time with my son and since dirty BM can no longer take SS, someone else is going to have to. I already said that if he were mine, that mouth would have been smacked!!

These are all things I plan on discussing with DH tonight actually. He doesn't back me up! EVER! And it's causing problems in our 7th month of marriage (been together over 3 years) and I am so depressed about all this! I couldn't put SS in a time out last night because it was bed time and he was already going to bed a half an hour early for lying to me and then laughing in my face earlier in the day.

I will not be home alone with this child anymore! That I can guarentee!!

For now, I am going to worry about me and my son!!

LOL Foxie!!!!

Well, I will not be making dinner anymore. I am officially ON STRIKE

Well I have an update. I spoke to DH last night about all of this. He knew when he saw my face that something was up and he sincerely seemed concerned and asked me to please talk to him and very calmly, I spit it all out. And then some. I made him aware at the very begning that I am aware with the issues with BM how it must effect SS and told him I can "imagine" why he gets the way that he does with me but I am not going to tolerate it in my home! I said I don't expect you to punish him, scream at him, spank his butt, all I expect from you is that when you witness this or I come to you if I feel I am not getting anywhere that he lets SS know he does not approve of that behaviour and/or actions. SS needs to know that. Well DH got defensive immediately. Started sticking up for SS like there was no tomorrow! I said look, I don't need to hear that you don't think that SS is doing it intentionally. He is! He isn't nice to anyone but you (DH). I said you asked me what was wrong because you see that I have been "distant" and you knew something was bothering me. I get afraid to talk to you sometimes because I don't know how you'll react but here's the reality, I am your wife. I have emotions. You many not always agree with them but clearly I am upset and I am opening up to you. Don't make me feel like I can't talk to you in the future when something is wrong for fear that you will get angry.

So then he goes on to say that I should talk to his SM. He said when he was younger that was how he was with her and if I need to talk to someone she would be the best person to talk to. My reply was that I don't care what she has to say. I love that woman I really do! And DH and she get along like parent and child now. My point is that maybe your father (DH's dad) let you treat his wife like garbage when you were a kid but that's not going to happen in my house. I am not going to tolerate it! Just because that was what was "normal" in your household growing up does not mean I have to accept it. He tried telling me I don't understand. I said this is what I understand. I had both of my parents together under one roof when I was growing up (they didn't divorce till I was 21). So, I never had a ste[parent to deal with however, it would have never EVER occured to me when I was a child to be rude to ANY adult for any reason what-so-ever. There is a way to stop this and I want it stopped now. Then he went on to complain that I don't go to any of SS's basketball games. I said for the 12 lessons of karate that my son went to and my son asked you (DH) to go watch him you never went one time. I am not trying to play that "game" with that comment but don't throw things like that in my face. Then I asked him if BM has ever been to one of SS's game and DH said no and I said oh, but she still gets plenty of respect. SOmeone who had SS taken from her home because she was wasted on drugs and alcohol and now can't even see him because she was arrested for child neglect. But she doesn't get SS's disrespect.

So, I told DH that I will never do another favor for SS until this stops again because why should I go out of my way. The next time it snows and there is a school closing, I will be going to work (providing my son is at his fathers). I will not be the one to cart him around at 7am before I have to go to work, DH can make arrangements for someone to pick SS up. I also told him that quite honestly while he works on Saturdays I would rather him find someone else to watch SS because I don't trust he won't lie about something terrible that I did. DH got really annoyed and said this is SS's house too and he isn't going to do that. So I said ok, consider this, I have plans Saturday. DH Says why can't you take him. I say because I am going to have brunch with a friend I haven't seen in 4 months and I would like to relax. Point blank, I'm not taking him and I'm not canceling my plans anymore.

See in the begining I was willing to do anything for the two of them. And I until I'm appreciated, I quit.

So the conversation ends. 10 minutes goes by and DH asks me whats for dinner. I said whatever you're making. So he made dinner last night. I don't plan on making it again tonight. My son is with his dad tonight so NOT gonna feel bad. And for the rest of the night DH was acting his usual self like the conversation never happened. So all I can do now is see how DH will handle it in the future as it comes. And if he doesn't do anything, he can go stay at his mothers for a while. They moved into my house. I'm not going anywhere I hope it works out the way I'm counting on it to.

And from now on when DH isn't around and SS treats me the way he does or lies, one by one his favorite games become mine until he sees I'm not messing around.

Ok, there's my update!