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What should the rules be for SD?

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Submitted by HJean197 on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 12:09am

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Okay so SD15 is pregnant. DH and I are at a loss as to how to treat her now. She thinks that now she's free to stay over at boyfriends overnight. We had big argument tonight over that. She's going to be giving baby to boyfriends parents and will be "visiting" baby there. She says she WILL be staying over once baby is born. So once a teen gets pregnant is it silly to still think same restrictions should apply. I see both sides, but it feels like SD is getting rewarded for getting knocked up by having freedom to do as she pleases.

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Submitted by Kay2 on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 12:25am

Yeah, I don't think that is at all okay. She is having a baby, her butt needs to stay home and take care of HER baby. Unless she wants to give the baby up for adoption. Either way, she is still 15 years old, drag her butt home by her hair if you need to. }:)

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Submitted by HJean197 on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 12:35am

I agree with you both, I don't think she should be staying there. DH doesn't either, but her bf's parents think we are being ridiculous as well as SD.

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Submitted by mystiery on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 5:19pm

His parents aren't hers, your DH needs to tell them to butt out and it is their attitude towards parenting that helped get your SD in this situation to begin with.

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Submitted by ddakan on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 1:02am

well then let them freakin adopt her. Sperm donor's parents are full of shit. i'd file sex charges against the little mo fo and a restraining order. see....it is illegal to have sex with children in America!! if she wants to emancipate herself from you with their approval, then you can consider it. are you footing the bill for the birth???? is she on YOUR insurance????

F NO! She can keep her ass home, go to school. She can't support herself and you can't let them have her without some kind of contractual obligation. What if they take the baby and kick her out at 17? Think down the road. They know all about child support and they are protecting their little bastard.

Raise some hell!!!!

Yall can come to some type of agreement, but this free love, sex, sleepover bullshit is just plain WRONG. If she wants an adult life, she can earn it like everybody else, by taking the steps to make it happen legally. and she can't. she's knocked up and jobless. wtf ever!

if it were my daughter....i'd make sure that family backed the F UP!

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Sun, 12/12/2010 - 5:37am

In our county, the school system has schools especially for teen mothers. I do not know all the particulars, but I do know they are expected to take care of the kids there and help out in the day care that is housed there as well. Something to keep in mind for her if your school system has something similar.

I defo agree though, unless she emancipates, she has to live by parents rules. If she moves into the other parent's house with out your permission, she is technically a run away and you can call the police to return her.

Some things to think about.