My DH sent me an email for SD Summer Schedule that BM has made up. BM is one of those Moms that lives through her child. First the group she wanted to keep up with put their daughters in gymnastics so SD was put in gymnastics. When SD showed no desire or improvement by coach after 3 years and 2 hour private lessons twice a week she was taken out. Now the group BM wants to hang with do Competitive Swimming. SD is now in that and again shows no passion or desire but on BM prompting her she says now she wants to go to the Olympics. However when SD is asked does she enjoy her Swimming Practice she says No.

My DH and I have discussed how SD is thrown from activity to activity all the time and rarely has anytime to just be a child. I have also asked DH to be blunt with BM and tell her on our weekends and summer break she is not to make any plans for SD. That is his time to decide how it is spent.

The Schedule is filled on a daily basis with practices that occur durring the day. DH did not tell BM we were not going to keep up with the schedule nor did he ask me if I was able to take SD to these practices when we have her. And to top it off they were talking about putting her in another summer camp while we have SD.
Still never has it been asked of me or my time been considered.

My BS and I have a landscape business and even though my time can be flexible when we have big jobs I have to be there because I am the designer.

HD just assumes that I am going to drop everything to be the one to take care of SD and her activities. You know if he would at least ask or we would sit down and plan how SD was to spend her summer with us I would do my best to work around everything. But as for right now I am thinking I am just going to refuse and let HD and BM figure how they will take off of work to keep up with activities.

Am I just being hard headed? I dont feel like I am and feel as I will finally get my point across this way. Please advise on what you all think.