I would. My situation with BM/skids is as bad as the next one but I love him SO MUCH. I fell in love with him at FIRST SIGHT at the "tender" age of 35 He proved to be, not just handsome, but smart and charming and loving and caring and sweet and I just didn't stand a chance. If there is such a thing as "love of one's life", he is certainly mine.
I will NOT let that stupid b!tch and those spoiled brats take that away from me!

Nope. Love him he's great but I'd like someone to experience the firsts of marriage and child birth and stuff with me. Also I probably would be so jaded about having my own.

I am going to put this another way:

If I knew then, when I was having so so so so many problems with the situation, what I know NOW about how to blend everyone and our roles, it wouldn't have been so hard.

~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~

I love my husband so much, I would absolutely choose to go through all of this again. That being said, I would definitely do things very differently and start standing up for myself way sooner than I did. I would know how to handle the psycho BM and wouldn't have put up with the crap that I did...

"If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they will kill you." ~Oscar Wilde

I love my husband, but right now after several years of laying docile, bio bitch is taking us through the ringer and calling the shots. She doesn't even have the kids ( a very long story ). But she does not work and does not pay ANY child support and never has. She refuses to provide a phone number to contact her. When she calls to speak to the children, she blocks her number. No one in her family knows the number either. SO if something happend to the children we would have NO way of getting a hold of her. I don't know sometimes I don't think it was ever worth it, marrying a man with children...I would NEVER marry a man with children if I had to do it over again knowing what I know now.

" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore

I second Crayon, NO F'N WAY!

I love my husband dearly, but before I got remarried I was a happy, together, single mom. Now I'm a miserable, depressed mess that just wishes I could pack up my kids and move away.

And maybe back over BM and SD with the moving truck.

I third! No way. I love DH, but I feel exactly the same as Abalyn. My life was calm and peaceful before, I had plenty...not rolling in money, but doing fine. My kids and I were okay.

Now things truly suck. I really feel like this is a huge mistake.

And yes, I do still love my husband. Sometimes, though, love is not enough.

I think I would still do it. But I had to think about it! lol
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“Learn by practice.” - Martha Graham

Despite Wingnut's ridiculous idea that she is a part of our marriage, dh has made my life better. After 4 years, I still get warm and fuzzy inside everytime I see him.

We took the high road and WON!! We've been dealt a crappy hand otherwise, but we're much stronger together than either of us ever were apart.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

Yes, without one picosecond of hesitation. She is my soul mate, my joy, my bliss, the love of my life and fire of my loins. (goofy movie line but true). She makes me better than I would be without her.

Though my life would be amazing without her, she makes it more incredible. Though I am 12yrs older than my wife and have experienced amazing things before I met her, experiencing new things with her and repeating things I have experienced before through her eyes with the ray of her smile to cast a new light on a repeat experience puts our life beyond my ability to describe with words.

And ........ as a bonus I got a pretty good kid in the deal.

Now, where is that lazy aggravating kid? I am going to go strangle him! }:)

Best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

with all the issues we are having
I still think I would because the skids wont be in our home forever. Soon enough the will move out!!!
I also think that it is not always the kids fault they are the way they are but more the parents

I ask myself this every day. The answer I have come up with is, "yes." But when she asked for a change in custody 5 years ago, I would have let her deal with the teenage years. The skids actions as teenagers have been what have torn us down, caused us to fight and doubt one another.

"I HAD to pick the road less traveled..."

Yeah I think I'd still do it. It would take some internal convincing but I'd probably give it a go.

Steppingover nailed it. While I love DH dearly, my biggest problems have been with his 27 year old daughter who lives with us. I'm starting to realize that most of her behavior is driven by his coddling her most of her life. Fortunatly BM hasn't give me any problems because she's now looking for a new husband herself (been divorced 15 years).

So it hasn't been what I expected and if I could do it over again, I would have waited to give SD a chance to get on her feet and move out so I wouldn't have had to deal with her BS. I feel that I'll never really know the excitment and joy that many newlyweds share because another adult lives with us (married 3 years now). I feel cheated because it's something I'll never be able to recapture.

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NO!

"It only matters if I care!"

Not for a million dollars. Every event feels second-hand and nothing would be worth the torture from all the harrassment and drama the BM caused or causes. She has also encouraged/allowed the skids to treat me the same. So NO NEVER!!

Yes...no...perhaps...CRAP! Ask me again in five minutes...I'm sure I'll have a different opinion lol.

If I knew what I know now, probably not. I love my DH with all my heart. He is my soul mate, but the SD and her BM are psycho and I can't wait for the SD to move out (3 more years til college) and turn 18 so we don't have to deal with BM anymore. It makes me sad, but I think that is the reality. But, I am not going to let those two psychos get the best of me and my marriage. I am strong and I will not give up, I will win the fight!

No, I am sorry but I wouldn't do it again. I used to be so fun and happy to be around; now I have extreme anxiety about everything, depressed, sad, stressed ALL the time.