Ok girls, I've found a website that may be a savior if court ever comes into play:
www.treasuremytext.com
You can save the number that they give you into your phone and forward any nasty BM messages to it. the only thing that sucks is that you have to manually add a note (I say that it's from her with the time and the date). Plus you can organize it into folders. I set up an account for BF & myself, added his phone # to the account and put the # for it in his phone with instructions that anytime she sends him something or anytime he sends her something he needs to immediately forward it. Think I'll keep the username and password to myself for awhile until I make sure he's actually doing it but I have a feeling I'll have to keep up with it for him but that's ok. I'm more than willing. We've got to be smarter than her (which is not difficult, trust me)! If anybody knows of a better program/website, please let me know