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Exiting Stephell. Slowly but surely

Thefatherismyfamily's picture

Submitted by Thefatherismyfamily on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 4:38pm

I finally exited stephell. I loved DH so much but the situation with stepkids made me so resentful. No one is to blame but me. Steplife is difficult. Kudos to those who can do it. I left the relationship! I'm dating and I met a wonderful man who has his life in order and he has NO kids! Hallelujah! Good luck to all and goodbye!

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diver111's picture

Submitted by diver111 on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 7:01pm

Congrats to you! Best wishes for a happy future! 

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Submitted by JRI on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 7:41pm

Congratulations on your new life!  And, just know, it wasn't your fault.  You were an ordinary human being trying to deal with a stressful, challenging situation that has defeated many.  Good luck!

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Submitted by Disengageme on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 8:08pm

I love hearing stories of people getting out of these situations. I'm currently in one and I too have become so resentful due to dh thinking ss11 is an angel and branding me the wicked sm. I've felt guilty because of how I feel but I've found out it's totally normal. I love my husband so much. It took me many years to find a man like him but he refuses to discipline this child and it's causing me to disengage. I leave when he gets here and it's always a fight with dh when I do. I'm miserable the entire time he's here and it's such relief when he leaves. I'm already dreading tomorrow because it's Friday. I'm starting to hate this life and we have a three month old that's making it even more difficult to leave because I have no money, no home of my own. To make matters worse I'm afraid due to his current living situation he may be with us permanently in a matter of months. But I'm glad you and others are out there getting your lives back. You are not to blame. I catch myself thinking if I do ever make it out of this marriage I WILL NOT date a man with kids. Lol 

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Fri, 07/09/2021 - 3:05am

Good for you, moving on. You may love DH but he didn't make you a priority. This is just as much your DH fault for taking you for granted and not putting in the work in your relationship.

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Fri, 07/09/2021 - 10:45am

Girl good for you!

I did the same , no more DH and snot faced SD, and donut eating BM.

Isnt life great?!