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Exiting Stephell. Slowly but surely

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Submitted by Thefatherismyfamily on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 4:38pm

I finally exited stephell. I loved DH so much but the situation with stepkids made me so resentful. No one is to blame but me. Steplife is difficult. Kudos to those who can do it. I left the relationship! I'm dating and I met a wonderful man who has his life in order and he has NO kids! Hallelujah! Good luck to all and goodbye!

No Skids for Thanksgiving weekend!

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Submitted by Thefatherismyfamily on Thu, 11/26/2020 - 9:50am

Over the last five years we have had skids for Thanksgiving three times. This is the second time we don't have Skids. It's so relaxing. No kid drama, no breaking things, no fighting, no whining, no needing dad to do everything for them, no complaining about our food, no vying for attention, no smirks, no bad attitude, no getting into DDs stuff,  no name calling.  We are cooking all the good stuff for ourselves and DD this year! Thursdays are BM's custody days. She tried to palm her kids off on us again this year. "Do you happen to have TG plans that include the kids?

Be kind to my kids

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Submitted by Thefatherismyfamily on Mon, 05/25/2020 - 9:09am

DHs says I have to be kind to his kids. I don't even see them and when I do I don't even say anything to them let alone do anything for them or to them that could be misperceived as kind or unkind. I'm just medium chill and neutral.

What he said is code for I want you to kiss their asses, fawn all over them when you see them and be a doormat; be a blubbering maternal woman who goes out her way to try to earn my kids love. And skids must feel entitled to having adults fawn all over them. That's never going to happen.

Benign or rude?

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Submitted by Thefatherismyfamily on Sun, 05/17/2020 - 4:32pm

For Mother's Day we helped MIL clean her yard of leaves and did some minor landscaping for her. At the end of four hours of work she said thank you let's send the kids off to play and why don't the adults sit down and have iced tea on the patio. We sit down and FIL (DHs stepdad) brings out three iced teas, one for him, MIL and DH.  

A week later I mentioned "do you remember when we sat down for iced tea. Why do you think Stepdad brought out only three teas for you guys?"