I have not posted here in nearly a year and a half because I have been so busy with work and my now 14 month old daughter. To give some background I have been re married now 3 years, my two teen bio sons and two step children s.d 10 and s.s. 9 and our 14 month old daughter all live together. When I first met my wife within a month I picked up on the fact her daughter was a out of control spoiled brat. This kid with the exception of having her check book ran the household and my wife allowed it. When I moved into the picture I thought I could change all this but am very much wrong.

This kid has more issues than I could type but the main ones are she is in dire need of 24/7 constant attention. If her Mom leaves the room to even use the bathroom she is at her heels, If we have adult company over she is there putting her two cents in every conversation, This child will go above, beyond and out of the way to have attention focused on her every second. We even actually talked to a therapist and he evaluated her. He said this child is the type that you could give her attention 23 and a half hours a day and it is not enough. My wife also has this weird relationship with her where she treats her like an adult. She emotionally manipulates my wife and wins every time. If there is even a slight sign of confrontation with her and my wife, my wife backs off and gives her way.

Our bio daughter is now 14 months old. I begged my wife throughout her entire pregnancy to address these issues before the baby came and of course she didn't. My wife judgement is impaired and comparable to that of a blind drunk when it comes to the issues with her daughter. When the baby came although she is ten she complained that it is unfair the baby can breast feed and not her and she wants to do it to. I fought with my wife for months that her petite 10 year old daughter was not to carry the baby down the steps because she might drop her. I only got compliance when I was at home but if not she would allow it rather than have a argument with her 10 year old boss my s.d. On one occasion while I was at work rather than argue with her daughter she allowed her to bring the baby then crawling into the kitchen since my s.d. insists on being at her side during meal preparation. The baby ended up burning her hands. I was really pissed off and told my wife why was your daughter in the kitchen to begin with and why did you allow her to bring the baby with her. On another occasion over the summer when we were camping I awoke early just in time to look out the cabin window and see a sight of horror. My s.d. was pushing the baby then 10 months in her stroller and lost control of it and was running down a slope to stop it before the baby and stroller plunged into a river !!! I banged on the window and my wife turned around ( she wasn't paying attention) and stopped the stroller. This is after numerous other stroller incidents like this by my s.d. that I begged my wife to not let the s.d. push or touch the stroller with the bay in it. My wife would rather risk our baby's health and welfare than tell her ten year old no. On another summer trip to Niagara Falls that I was not on my wife returned home with pictures. I looked at them and immediately was shocked. In the one photo my 9 year old niece was holding our daughter then 6 months on her one shoulder posing by the Falls ! I asked my wife who took this picture ?! You guessed it my s.d. and she told the niece her cousin to hold the baby like that. I asked my wife are you insane what would have happened if she dropped her ?! On another occasion the s.d. had a school project to work on that involved gluing little tiny beads. I asked my wife, in fact insisted as I was leaving for work that the s.d. did the work in her bedroom so I would not have to worry about the baby picking up a bead and choking. Of course she said okay then let s.d. do what ever the hell she wanted the moment I left. I walked back in the door that evening just in time to stop the baby from putting a bead in her mouth that she had picked up. Another time we were grocery shopping and s.d insisted on playing adult and pushing the cart with the baby in it. My wife backed down and allowed it. I went to one end of the store to grab something then turned the corner in shock to see the bay in the cart in the middle of an aisle unattended because s.d. walked off. My wife made a joke of it and dismissed it all. These are just some small examples of the routine nonsense that has gone on. The latest conflict that has me heading to seek legal counsel is a trip my wife has planned that I can not go on because of my business. She wants to take herself, the baby and s.d. out of state this summer to visit with her mom. I told her I can not trust your daughter with the baby alone and no. I told her you can go and leave the baby with me, you and s.d. can go or you and the baby go and s.d. stays home. I explained to her that I fear for the baby's life and do not trust her and her impaired judgement with s.d. I told all my fears from her allowing s.d. to play adult and bathe the baby and possibly drown her to s.d. taking her for a walk in the stroller and getting her hurt. Her response was well I am going and you will just have to trust me. I told her I cant and have no doubt in my mind her daughter, my s.d. will manipulate her the minute they are gone and my wife will jeopardize the baby's safety before standing up to s.d. and telling her No you cant bathe her etc. I am at my wits end over this and told her I will file for a divorce and emergency custody before I will allow her to be out of state with my s.d. and the baby because it is a recipe for disaster.