Short lived...
Me trusting dh, very short lived.
I had to travel down to pick up my son. I woke up feeling sick. This whole week i have been with babygirl 24/7, because she has been congested and feverish...she was finally better thursday, but we had talked about dh staying home with her since he cant work in rain.
Every friday i take bioD with me, and very rarely i travel alone to get bioson.
Welp, guess who got up not feeling well ME!
So plans change dh drives-he cant pick up bioson- and at this point its to late to call my ex, bioson school was getting out 2hrs early, if it was regular time i could have had him ride bus home and got him later, but to late now.
The whole carride i thought i was going to hurl!!
I still feel like crap.
So dh says he has the kids, but its like i know he does not, i cant go to sleep...i cant.
Welp its 7pm... babygirl comes up and tells me she is hungry, diaper sagging, my bioson9 Says he cant reach the milk to get her a drink.
I go downstairs dh passed out playdough all over him and couch-awesome- all the playdough containers opened all over table. Ugh
So i change daughter, feed daughter, clean up playdough with BS, except for couch eff him, left everything else. Got daughter settled. Then went and hurled...now im just awake till daughter falls asleep.
Like its just bullcrap, and he wants to know why i want to leave?! I can be sick alone.
This is just to much.
I can have my own place and be way happier.
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I was awake with bd it felt
I was awake with bd it felt like 2days straight!! She would wake up id unclog her, try to go back to sleep, and he cant stay awake till 830-9pm?!
Wow- seems like there is a
Wow- seems like there is a lot going on.
When we are sick everything seems more intense. I dont know your whole background story, but ultimately you have to decide how much you can handle things and also, how much do you love your husband and the family you have. Sometimes men dont understand things, we have to keep saying it over and over again, hence my nickname thebrokenrecordmachine- my ex told me to just say it once lol, at any rate some men just dont get things and are oblivious. Sometimes I see things and even I am like, what the heck!- How do you know everything but not this ? LOL.
If you started out doing too much in your relationship some men expect it to continue especially if you didnt state you needed help in the beginning- hope i dont come across as mysognyistic- i am saying this as this happened to me.
Maybe he is sick and couldnt get the bottle. Only you know if he is really this lazy and unhelpful, if he is lazy and unhelpful, you really will do better luck next time, especially if you dont think he will change.
Best of Luck! And hope you feel better! Good thing about stomach virus, they are nasty but short lived.
I always advocate trying to stick it out, but i also realize somethings will never change and nothing should ever come after your happiness; in some cases moving on is the best option!
Dh was asleep and my son was
Dh was asleep and my son was trying to help without getting me or waking dh up. But he is to short to get the gallon of milk from the top shelf.
Im sorry but i feel like one night he cant get it together to make sure kids are safe...him being sick too, really?!
There is nothing worse than
There is nothing worse than taking care of kids when you are sick. You have reached your limit with your DH. Men don't get. Some men lack sympathy. And it is always when we woman need it the most. Feel better soon and please get a good night sleep. When you get better deal with DH but for now take care of yourself.
I too hurled today. All over
I too hurled today. All over myself and my couch. And still had to take care of dd3. My couch is a piece of crap from Big Lots though. I hope we feel better tomorrow
Please don't listen to those
Please don't listen to those saying men don't get it. Lots of guys "get it." I'm never sick, so when I am it really hits hard. My DH is a rock star when I'm sick (because I also try to show sympathy and help him whenever he's feeling icky). He also takes care of our toddler at night at least once a weekend even though I'm SAHM. It gives me at least one day to sleep in. I'm never worried on those nights if he has changed diapers, administered Tylenol, or done everything the baby needs because...I don't have to worry.
It sounds like you can't trust your DH to be a team. That is really tough and I hope you can communicate to him what you need from him. Have you considered therapy?