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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:12am

Is it normal for 2 teenage girls (16/17/18 years old) to shower & go to the bathroom together? I'm not talking about showering together and going to the bathroom together in a public place like a gym or something, I'm talking about showering together in my own home. My 16 SD showers all the time with her friends and even goes the the bathroom with her friends while we are home.

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Submitted by mommadukes2015 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:18am

I'm 27 and if my best friend is visiting and I want to take a shower she sits on the potty and talks to me. I try to keep the nudity to a minimum but she doesn't really care. After having a whole room full of strangers, my mom, SO, and my MIL all up in my business when I had BD I no longer care who sees me naked.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:22am

I will do this as well, but I'd not jump in the shower with her or pee in front of her unless one of us was dying from a plague.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:29am

We have a full clear glass door. There's no hiding behind a shower curtain in that bathroom.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:20am

Is this multiple friends or one friend in particular?

Some girls are super close and do this. I'm not one of them. If I'm showering with a girl, it's because I want to participate in extracurricular activities. If there is only one girl she is doing this with, and they act like a couple in other aspects (e.g. holding hands, hugging on each other, sleeping in the same bed during sleepovers, etc), then my guess is that they are a couple.

If you don't like it happening in your home, set a rule that there is to be no shower or bathroom partners. However, I can't imagine that will end well or is overly necessary UNLESS some not-okay things are going on, like taking naked pictures, having sex, etc.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:26am

Multiple friends. I'm definitely don't one that has ever showered with a friend and never will. I guess I'm just private like that.

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Submitted by sunshinex on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:24am

Totally normal. Especially at the bar when you've been drinking - my friends and I always go in the same stall and chat while we pee lol

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:28am

Yes when you are in public and at a bar, I've done that too but do you pee with your friends at home? I guess I just don't see the purpose of this. They are in her bedroom across the hall. Both of them will walk to the bathroom and one goes to the bathroom and then they both come out. What is so important that they can't stop their conversation for 30 seconds and resume when they come back out from the bathroom.

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Submitted by sunshinex on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:42am

Haha that's a bit strange, for sure... I don't personally do that, but to each their own I guess

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 11:34am

I don't even shower with DH, I am in and out in a flash, all business.

I have never showered with a friend.

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Submitted by moving_on_again on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 12:44pm

I showered with my best friend and her sister when we were teens. I think we just did it to save time. I just noticed that DD does not do that with her friends. DD and I go into the bathroom when the other is in there to do stuff but we don't shower together.

SO and I will shower together and bathe together is we go somewhere that has a big tub.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 1:41pm

I have definitely done the bathroom thing.. (no one only lol) but I am not sure it was really done at the house, more likely when we were out.

I know I was in the bathroom when friends were showering and vice versa... getting ready but not actually IN the shower together.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 2:55pm

I have gone to the bathroom with my girlfriends when I was older and out at the bar but never at the house. I totally get it when your out and with your girlfriends but I don't understand it when your at home. And these girls actually shower together, ALL the time. Maybe I'm crazy but when I was in HS and we had swim classes and had to shower after all the girls showered in their bathing suits so we didn't see each other.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 3:25pm

I agree and my hubs is letting that go on right in our house in front of other young children and family members. She has in the past said while family was over sitting there "come on let's go take a shower" or "we need to go get ready". Each one of my family members has commented "do they really shower together"?

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 3:23pm

Like, showering TOGETHER, as in they're both naked and soaping up at the same time? Or one is showering while the other one's in the bathroom, but not in the shower?

I'd say the first scenario is bizarre. The second, meh, that's normal.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 3:26pm

Yes both showering together as in naked and soaping up together. She doesn't hide it either.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 3:33pm

Yeah, that's super weird to me. I mean, I had close friends at that age, but we never showered together.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 09/20/2017 - 3:35pm

My DH and her don't understand why I have an issue with it. They say they are both girls with the same parts who cares.

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Submitted by Ladystark on Thu, 09/21/2017 - 8:04pm

Never. I had just commented on this awhile back!

My ss13 had asleep over awhile back and they were sleeping in same bed. To me weird- as we always let guest sleep in bed, and we slept on floor. And if i went to girlfriends house, we may brush our teeth together but showering, washing hands, bathroom, id never do that with her, very weird.

I think the only time i slept in same bed or up close to someone was when it was a big sleepover.

But ss will go in bathroom with friend, to brush teeth, wash hands- no potty, he is not that flashy lol.

Maybe with technology social graces are thing of past as we have more facetime!

Id still think something sexual...i would not allow girl to come over for a bit, if she gets very angry, or demands it, it might very well be sexual!

I told dh finally about them sleeping in same bed and he stopped sleepovers for awhile until he talks to ss about one sleeps here, one sleeps there. He was not ok with it. I thought it was odd but ss is still immature and we did not even let sleep overs happen till summer after 5th grade...so maybe we failed a bit on that one lol.

Either way if your sd was a boy would your dh be ok with it? Probably not...just because she is a girl does not make it ok.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Mon, 09/25/2017 - 2:51am

It's a new thing under them...... you should not be ashamed of your body, nudity is normal... thank you reality TV, teach the children to have no self respect.

They think it's cool, I'm old fashioned, I never went to to loo with any one, not even friends in a bar or in public, sorry my bathroom business is mine and no one else'...