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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 02/18/2019 - 10:30am

We had BD's 2nd birthday over the weekend.  SD showed up 2 hours late when the party was almost over.  She ate, she stayed about 45 minutes and left.  She currently works full time & she told DH that she couldn't afford to buy BD a gift.  Now mind you she's two, she doesn't ask for anything and honestly doesn't need anything.  However BD couldn't cough up $5 to buy her a stuffed animal?  BD is covered in tattoos and piercings, she drinks daily, she's s a heavy smoker, she just went on vacaiton with her friends yet she couldn't afford to buy your sister anything?  Maybe I'm petty, maybe I'm just jaded by her but I can't understand how someone can be so selfish.  I enjoy doing things for others.  I would spend my last dollar on someone else before I would on myself.  For years I did everything for SD and I never asked for anything in return.  I never expected anything from SD, but I would hope she would be a little less selfish toward her baby sister who she claims is the best thing that ever happened to her and how much she loves her little sissy.

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Submitted by SonOfABrisketMaker on Mon, 02/18/2019 - 12:48pm

thats some sad, sad shit. My skids, bless their hearts, are always sure to bring a gift for their sister, DD7. SS21 is paying for college and working full time and he still manages to scrape up 20 bucks for something that makes kiddo squeal with joy. Granted, I subsidize girl trips to the mall for DD and SD but I know SD is spending way more than I give her, out of her own summer earnings.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 02/18/2019 - 1:58pm

She's 2 and doesn't realize that her sister didn't get her a gift and it's not like BD is neglected, she has plenty it's just the principal.  It's the principal that every time we see her she has a new tattoo, a new piercing, she's sitting there vaping or going out side to smoke, all while wearing her new Apple iWatch and Uggs.  It's just pure selfishness.  BD is 2 years old she loves ballons and stuffed animals, go to the dollar store and get her a $1 balloon & $1 stuffed animal and she would be thrilled.  It's the thought that counts.  

DH was thrilled that she showed up and after everyone left and we finally sat down all DH did was talk about how wonderful it was that SD was there even though we have our differences.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 02/18/2019 - 6:12pm

but i would have ZERO expectations of SD and when DD is old enough let her know in so many words that her half sister is a selfish bastard to soften the blow.

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 02/18/2019 - 7:18pm

Their half siblings happy birthday or buy presents on that day. I never say happy birthday to them and since only ss20 lives with us when not at uni then if we are on holiday together hubby will get a slice of cake at restaurant where the staff sing happy birthday otherwise he does nothing

his kids never say happy birthday ever and don’t contact him unless they need favours, money or bills paid for so he’s not gonna go out of his way to contact them and wish happy birthday because he’s upset with their attitude and behaviour

i did a birthday party for my daughters 1st and invited inlaws over but ss was at college then. Hubby only says happy birthday to me and our kids and is happy to say it.

my sd only initiated contact mid last year after 5-6 years disappearing with their mum and they’ll buy useless presents that are so over the top and useless for our toddlers and not practical and it just clogs up our home but on birthday its nada. I brought it up with hubby like why are our toddlers getting cheap ass felt school bags that are gonna be ripped apart in days, then next meet up with their dad they buy the same things and a cheap arse dress thats made from cheap arse materials but made to look fancy that my daughter can’t even wear normally. Even i’m smart at getting stuff on sale thats cheap but quality. She gets given velcro fruit, apparently sd14 told sd22 she wanted to get everything for my kids but i believe its the exwife who’s telling her daughters to buy this useless shit to keep up appearances that they are all changed and good but still up to their usual stuff

i stopped the gift giving with hubby for normal meet ups but like op said, even a $5 stuffed doll or toy flower my kid would love to carry around and hug. So op sd basically turned her half siblings/stepsisters birthday into about her not being able to afford stuff.

if that were me op, i would have sarcastically responded with those multiple tattoos and piercings you recently got don’t seem cheap... oh the shock on her face then.... yep i’m that kind of nasty... i don’t tolerate hypocritical bullshit

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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 02/19/2019 - 11:11am

I wish I could have said that to her but she didn't say it to me.  We really don't speak, she came to the party she said hi, she ate and she left.  That was it.  If she would have said to me she can't afford anything I would have totally said something to her.  When she told DH I can't afford to buy her a gift DH said oh that's ok we don't expect you to buy anything for her, your presence is all that matters.  GAG!!!!!