She is still in high school for now. She was currently taking college courses (she is intelligent just not smart) but said it's too boring and not her style. She said she's thinking of quitting. Not sure if that means dropping out or just going back to the high school. I don't ask questions.

I am a horrible horrible person. I mean it would be totally cool to let her and her friends get plaster and high at my house every night and possibly everything I have worked for.

It's exactly what she is doing avoiding the rules. Her reasoning is she doesn't want to live in 2 different households anymore. Her parents have taught her absolutely no responsibility/accountability for anything. When I tried to teach her about money, budgeting and savings she ended up taking her bank account to another bank so I didn't have access to it. She kept one penny in the account to keep it open so her dad could easily transfer money to her. She thought she was being cute until I closed the account. She got a traffic ticket recently and didn't have the money to be able to afford it so mommy paid for it and is now trying to collect 1/2 that money from DH & I. We're not paying for her damn traffic ticket. Now if either BM or DH would have taught her about saving money for a rainy day mommy wouldn't have had to pay for that and try to collect from us. But I guess that doesn't matter b/c even if she would pay for the ticket she wouldn't have money left for her fast food, her nails, her cigarettes, her beer, her gas money etc so she'll call mom, dad or grandma for more money to pay for those things.