When do kids grow up? I understand the whole "delayed adolescent syndrome" but what about just plain "consideration" of others. The selfishness is beyond what I can bear. For the first time in 20 years I've decided that when the step kids come (next Thursday to Sunday) that I'm going to pack up and leave town. I've decided I'm not waiting on them for meal prep and clean up no am I going to have their bedding and towels all laid out like I have always done. I've been doing the best I can to show love, even when I don't always feel it (rarely in fact) when I only see them come when they want something (usually money). And yet almost nil reciprocation. Christmas usually finds some "re" gifted items for us but rarely much thought...my hubby years ago got a little truck from the dollar store from all three of them for Fathers Day...likely the only gift I remember. They are grown with jobs and are making their way but have never been taught that "it's more blessed to give then receive". I love giving and seeing their faces and paying most of their bills throughout college and doing what parents are suppose to do...I pretty much took it in stride. But as the last 3-5 years have gone by without any reciprocation I'm beginning to feel used. I can actually even understand that if they don't like me why would they buy me something...so I'm honestly setting that aside because I've never gotten so much as a birthday card. BUT when their own father, flesh and blood, does not get acknowledged for birthdays or Fathers Day...I can't condone this. I think my biggest fear is that as much as I don't want to look at them and fake another smile as he spends his hard earned money taking them Jet Skiing is that they won't even notice I'm gone and it will have no impact whatsoever. Any advise? PS I have two children (35 & 32) that I have taught to respect both their step parents and they all grateful for one another's "consideration" of each other. The step children are 31,28,25. Help!