So yesterday I was chatting with DP about his day. He had a hard one with work and then he had to take care of SD9 on top of it. He was saying that if he had to deal with SD9 and lunch every day he'd go nuts.
I gave him some comiseration and then just said, "That's why I just either give her lunch or if I need to take her out I just go somewhere. I make the choice, not her." (she cannot make up her mind and will nix everything you suggest otherwise...needless to say I don't do this often)
DP says, "I'm doing this ass-backawards aren't I?"
Me, give him a shoulder pat and move on to something else...
Good. He's thinking about it.

THEN at home, he's chatting with SD11. Which comes around to Xmas talk and what the plan will be. 'Cause SD11 is allllll about Xmas and her birthday (near each other). Says she misses her 8 month old cousin in England, who she's met once, this summer, and would love to see her. DP says something about Xmas in England this year. SD11 is allllll over that instantly. "yes daddy yes!"
Me, "I don't know if we can do that this year....um..."
DP, "Oh, I don't want to talk about that right now, it's always NEXT year and we never go."

Me: thinking WTF?
It's never been cancelled b/c of lack of initiative!
Last year trip was cancelled due to us buying a house, his father's death and SDs freak out we'd be going w/out them.
This year we are planning on getting married in a year and a half.
I am paying off my debts so I can afford to 1) get married and 2) take a long, long vacation afterwards.
I have to save vacation time and ask for it way in advance. If he wants to do this he has to pay b/c I have no $ for travel right now - AND his sister is getting married this spring we we'll attend that somewhere too (at least that'll be in the U.S.).
He may be going to England and spend Xmas w/out me if he made some unilateral decision with SD11 before discussing it with me. Too bad DP!