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Very interesting article on "Mending the Nest" (FB page)

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Submitted by MJL2010 on Fri, 06/26/2015 - 2:39pm

But I can't figure out how to share it or post even the link here. It is called "The Day I Forgave My Daughter's Stepmom". It was obviously written by a BM who got tired of all the crazy. Further, she was a BM who had a couple of reasons to be pissed! But it seems like sanity won out in the end. I wish the same for some of us on here (those of us whose BMs like pretending that their exes are actually doing the awful things that they've heard about other jerks doing.....and who like pretending that we stepmoms are doing Grimm fairy tale stepmom type stuff as well- and we are forced to live in whatever hellish reality they've concocted in their sick minds).

Give it a read. Score one for the BMs who actually value peace and mental health and who have chosen freedom from suffering. They are like unicorns; they may exist and if we just keep believing, we may see one someday!

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Submitted by CBCharlotte on Fri, 06/26/2015 - 2:45pm

Can you post the text? I did a google search and am only finding the "Open letter to my daughter's stepmom"

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Submitted by P Popper on Fri, 06/26/2015 - 3:04pm

Thank you MJL2010.
THis was a good read, and offers some hope that
1. we can forgive the step mom
and more importantly
WE CAN FORGIVE OURSELVES!

<3

'All I really wanted was peace between us and respect. The days of counting monies owed to the exact penny and keeping track of who had my daughter more that month are finally over. The little divorce wars seem to have come to an end. We have both moved on. That day at the car dealership I finally forgave them for their mistakes, for hurting me, but I also forgave myself for acting like a crazy woman. I’m grateful that I was able to see my ridiculous behavior so early on and was able to change it so we could all move on peaceably and stop doing things out of spite and start doing things to be better parents. I always say it takes a village to help raise children post divorce. I have a wonderful extended support system, I just never imagined I would consider “the stepmom” to be part of my village.'

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 06/26/2015 - 3:51pm

She would have never, ever come to this conclusion had she not been put into an evil SM role.

Had she married a man without kids, she would have continued hating the SM and believe her to be an evil bitch.

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Submitted by MJL2010 on Sun, 06/28/2015 - 12:48pm

It's amazing that the SM in the author's article actually did some of the crappy stuff that our BM has accused me of doing- which I've not done- and I don't doubt for one minute that the author may never have come to the realization and to peace if she weren't dealing with another psycho BM.

My kids' dad's GF? Nothing to "forgive", nothing for her to "forgive" me for, as we are both sane and because I am sane I've never doubted that my kids know who their mother is. I don't need to piss around their school to mark my territory, become FB friends with all my kids' friends' moms, try to micromanage what goes on during ex-H's custody time, call them constantly, write arrogant letters to towns declaring that they aren't allowed to sign my kids up for things, etc....

My step kids' BM is out of her mind....even so, if she ever found someone who was interested in spending the rest of his/her life with her, I would not wish the shit on her that she is STILL DOING TO US, six years later.