I have two things that are getting on my nerves today...and both are relatively petty.

First - My mother is putting herself on the short list to becoming a saint in that she's over-extended her welcoming arms to SO after our colossal failure at the relationship the first time and now his daughter. She asks about her and is very nice about being genuinely interested in the things the minihag has to say when she's tagging along. She always makes sure that when she's putting together a gift for my son for the holiday, she always has something for her...and not a small trinket either. Minihag is HORRIBLE with manners, the first couple times she made a thank you card which my mom promptly hung on her refrigerator. Now, she's lucky if my SO even remembers to acknowledge her. :O I told her to stop bothering, because obviously her Seahag of a mother and my SO are unable to teach her manners. She'll throw tears out there and drama-fy the situation if she's not getting the gifts and my son is, but she won't even thank my mom for them. :jawdrop: I am a thank-you card writer, I write them for myself and I have been extra diligent about writing them for my 1 year old. However, my mom is the type of person who will continue to do it because it's the "right" thing and if the minihag can't open her trap to say thank you - well that's on her. This is an irritant of mine, but not my main complaint. My SO has started to bring up in casual conversation that my mom must be so excited that his daughter is coming for the weekend :? , whenever she comes, because my mom asks about her and talks to her when she's there. (We do Friday night dinners at my parents so they can see our 1 year old.) I want to smack him in the face when he says this. I know it's better to just let him live in his own world, but I don't understand why he can't just accept my mom's kindness for what it is and STOP trying to make it something it's not. He wants this barnacle that fell from the seahag to take some kind of place in MY life and MY family, but she's not ever going to be that. Ever. I want to shake him and say, "Don't you understand that my mom has good manners and doesn't want your kid to feel left out?! She wouldn't care one way or another if your spawn showed up!" I keep my mouth shut.

This weekend is visitation, so the minihag will go with him to his sport for the day Saturday, and I will take my son to my mom's so she can give me a break and I can go buy him new clothes and stuff for the new baby. He's already done the dance that because my mom and the minihag get along so well that she should get to spend time with my mom :sick: (WTF?) and come with me. NO. Shot that down immediately. Sunday, I told him I wanted to take our son to do something fun...day-trippy to a city or activity close-but-not-too-close. He was down with planning and then ends the conversation with, "Since we'll have minihag, I'll just tell her mom that we're going on a trip and keeping her later into the evening." :jawdrop: :sick: :O I now want to cancel. He listened to me plan this for three people, then snuck his daughter in the plan. She usually gets picked up by her mom earlier in the afternoon-late morning, because there is always something they have to do - so I just assumed we would drop her off and GO. Damn it. I just want to take my kid on a day trip with my SO and NOT have to deal with his hags *stomping feet*. He does this every time.