I think SO made the decision for me.

He decided to have the minihag over last weekend AND this weekend...He told me this while he was fighting with me because I am "not human" and I hate his daughter etc... He said that she is more important than I will ever be, and due to her mother needing to make plans for this coming weekend - he of course wants to have her.

Since then (Sunday evening) he's been trying to back-pedal on all of the horrifying things he said to me, but I'm kind of apathetic to it now. He wants to make a big deal out of our "last weekend of freedom." Especially while minihag is here.

Nope. No thanks, SO. DS 1 and I will be going to my mom's so I can relax with my kid before going into the hospital Monday. However, thank you for forcing me back into the reality that you will never be the type of man I deserve.

I can't physically move my things out at this point, but that's where this is going. I don't think there's really much he can do to make anything better. I'm trying to focus on keeping my stress level down and getting things ready for the new baby.

I'm starting to understand why I would've never been able to forgive him for running around on me a few years ago. It's because it never stopped, just changed forms. He'll always pick BM and their daughter over me, and more than likely he'll have a "replacement" before my stuff is moved out.

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I'm so sorry you're going

I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially at this point in your life.

Hugs! You're a strong woman and you will get through this rough time.

He said that she is more

He said that she is more important than I will ever be,

Oh no he did not! He actually said this?

I am so sorry you are having to go through this! A new baby should be a joyous, exciting time and he has ruined this for you. I'm glad you can go to your mom's at least and have some peace. What a jerk

I don't think he was

I don't think he was completely aware of everything that was coming out of his mouth that night - he was seeing red because I wasn't backing down and allowing him and the seahag to walk all over me. It seemed to fuel his fire whenever I said something in a completely neutral tone that he couldn't argue with. I can't keep playing the doormat and then raise two boys with him, I don't want them to think this is what a relationship is supposed to be.

I'm sure he will want visitation with our two, at least superficially. He's not real "hands on" so he will always take them for visitation and then pawn them off on someone else...much like he does with the minihag.

I'm actually a little bit relieved. I was more stressed out than I even realized and now I can breathe.

Oh, I'm absolutely sure

Oh, I'm absolutely sure you're right - that's why this isn't a big surprise for me.

Yes Congratulations to you -

Yes Congratulations to you - finally to hold your beautiful baby! All the best to you and your additional pride and joy!
Peace to you

Lose yourself in your DS and

Lose yourself in your DS and the new bundle. Get yourself healthy and then take whatever steps you need to take and do what is right for you and for your little ones. You have to realize so many kids follow their parents way of thinking and for some reason the more unreasonable and the more pigheaded a parent is THAT is usually the one they follow in thought process and personality. You never want your boys to ever think like SO. They need to know you show a woman kindness, love, and respect above all others unless that woman is an ex then she is NOTHING!

Kids are but a season in our lives.

{HUGS}

I'm so, so sorry to hear

I'm so, so sorry to hear things have come to this. Please take a huge amount of hugs. Really hope you stick to your guns and leave; if what you just wrote is the example of who he is, he's not worth your time, love, energy... it will hurt at fisrt, but you will have peace and love yourself more being away from him. Take care and the best of luck!