I'm sorry SD16 and DH, you want me to what??

SD16 is in grade 11 and if she's not failing her classes, she's barely passing them. Frustrating to see a bright kid piss her life away, but since I am the only person in her life that seems to care about her education, that makes me evil in her eyes.

A couple of weeks ago, she was here for a visit and told her dad that she knew what she wanted to do with her life. She now wants to be a kindergarten teacher. She thinks that working with kids is all play time. DH was almost delirious with pride. (this is the same child that wanted to be a special effects make up artist a month ago) I told her that was a great job to pick, but would require her to pick up her grades big time till she graduated, then there was university AND teacher's college. Told her she was looking at about 6+ years of education after highschool. He face dropped and DH said, 'you should't discourage her'. Discourage her?! It's the truth! She thinks that because she babysits her cousin once in a while (while adults are in another part of the house) that she is destined to work with children now.

I work in a school and am going to school at night to get my Early Childhood Educator's Diploma. It will take me about 2 more years to complete. I took a couple of text books out of my bag and handed them to her. Told her to flip through them. Maybe an ECE course is better suited for her.

Then she asked...'if I got to college Fedup, you can help me with my homework since you are already learning all this!'. DH smiled at this show of briliance! 'great idea sd16!' And by 'help' she means 'do it for her' like she asks me to do with her current homework.

Yeah sure, I just smiled at them. This kid will never get into college for basket weaving unless she does a major overhaul. I'm not holding my breath.

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Don't be so sure. SD18

Don't be so sure. SD18 graduated with a 1.2 GPA and managed to get into a university. Not one I would choose, but they got her. If someone will pay, they can go.

She is in her 2nd semester. We have no idea how she is doing, since she is PAS'd. She is majoring in Psychology, which I think is hilarious for a girl who claims her BPD is just anxiety.

1.2? That is discouraging. My

1.2? That is discouraging. My bil's stepson went off to some college with grades like that and guess where he is now? Living in bil's garage with a revoked license, dropout/school suspension, and a pit bull to take care of. The wretched kid phoned mommy threatening suicide when he lost his apartment on top of all the other things he got revoked/kicked out of it. She left bil to go pick up the kid and told bil she'd leave HIM if he didn't let this manchild back into their house with the dog that bil had absolutely forbidden (something along the lines of barkatthemoon's hedgehog story). BIL caved in order not to lose her and now has given up his garage to this steroided-out unemployed, uneducated, non-driving weightlifter.

Grades in high school are not an absolute predictor (almost nothing in life is 100% correlation) of success in launching, but they are not a bad tool at all. I didn't think sd15 would get into college with her gpa but I guess she will from what you say. I don't want her living in the garage, though, with some pet we have to buy mountains of kibble for, so this is all a good reminder to keep encouraging dh to get her grades up.

ETS Bil's ss is 21.

No way is my uneducated,

No way is my uneducated, unemployed SD23 living in our garage, that's where our cars live. Even my DH would not give up his garage. I guess that leaves the shed. Oh wait, I don't think DH would give that up, either, it houses the lawnmower and the snow blower. Bummer.