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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 11:51am

Says a BD to his 11yo daughter on his parenting time :jawdrop: the little girl had to order bread and water.

I was just told this by my mom who is going through a lot with her situation. She took my youngest brother.. (Only half sibling) (still a minor) to see her attorney. I haven't blogged about their situation but have thought about it. She actually asked me to a while ago but it's so crazy I wouldn't know where to begin.

My mom has a very good attorney and to be honest..I wish I could afford his retainer. Her story is a bit different.. BDs GF doesn't want BD to have anything to do with BS BC she is so jealous of my mom which I don't understand at all ... No one does. My mom left him almost 8 years ago and he is no prize.

Bitch is seriously crazy. BD cannot communicate with BS even though BS has his own cell. But.. BSC GF constantly sends texts to my bro (directed towards my mother) ripping this little guy's heart out.

The attorney told him this as a story ..the heading of my blog. And it was BC the BD in that situation got a new GF. WTF.

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Submitted by StepX2 on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 12:25pm

Truly sad if true.
This attorney is spreading the evil stepmother stereotype. If the attorney tells this story to all of his clients I wonder how many have passed it on to others.

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:03pm

No.. He did talk to the BM before telling the teen this. The teen wants to see the dad and doesn't understand why the feeling isn't reciprocal.
When the atty read the taped together letter from the GF to the teen he really had no words.

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Submitted by StepX2 on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 12:27pm

Now on your mom and brother's situation...the GF shouldn't be contacting your brother for anything!

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:22pm

She replies pretending to be BioDad. Everyone knows he doesn't text. She even told my mom that any contact through email that she to BD, she also had to send to her email. I thought I was dealing with crazy!

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:00pm

Oh I know he has a mind of his own. This was my stepfather figure (they were never married) for many years. I'm not just blaming the GF..I can't stand him for doing this to my brother. He may not have been much of a father to him before but my brother loved spending time with his dad.

I was just looking for feedback on the GF situation BC she apparently has his balls in a vice. She can text a 15 yo things like why do you put this burden on my shoulders.. And he goes right along with it like a little bitch. Sorry. I'm just very upset for him.

He is a very sweet kid and doesn't deserve this..

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 12:50pm

The GF wants all control. She is the painting of "all SMs are horrible beasts"

The atty told my bro about this BC he is so torn about not seeing his BD. Since he and my mom have split they have had zero issues for almost 7 years until this lady has been in the picture. BD would pick up bro to go watch a football game, take him out to eat, spend the wknd or more.. No issues. I know we usually have these issues from BMs and that's why I was skeptical about posting their situation here but this lady is in fucking sane.

They would have her blocked but she said its a 3rd party phone. Every time BD (GF) would contact my bro before, the number would immediately be changed. My bro wants contact with his all of a sudden spineless BD and said he could deal with seeing the GF if that's what he has to do to see his dad.

He saw them Christmas day..the first time in about 10 months he said it went well. He enjoyed seeing his dad even though they were at the GFs family get together and her kids were considered BDs family, not my bro. GF handed my brother a letter on their way to drop off and said don't open it until you get out of the car. The letter was full of things about court, BM, BM owes me gas money, she isn't following the CO and much more. NOTHING to little bro. He was so mad I'm shocked he didn't tear down my sister's apartment. He ripped the letter to shreds.

I'm not sure why the attorney isn't going for harassment against the GF to little Bro but then again The boy just wants to see his dad. So the atty wants it to appear as the GF has some control for his sake. They will continue to meet at the police station for PU/DO and BM won't be there so she doesn't have to deal with it.

She has already had 2 ROs slapped on her that she didn't even know about.. GF did that as soon as she came into the picture with bogus accusations that BM was sexually stalking BD. Hahahah. BM and BD weren't even speaking at all. All communications were through my sister and BD. That was thrown out in court..as well as the GF.

Sorry that got long.

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:09pm

That's horrible.

I have been hearing about and dealing with these happenings for over a year now. I have told her to just get a RO against the GF but the kid wants to see his dad badly and if she's not involved in any and all communications that won't happen. He's 16 so I'm hoping he'll figure it out soon.

It is effecting his every day life. My OSS and he used to be best friends even before he was my OSS. He barely comes over anymore. He has so much anger he's afraid to leave home.

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:12pm

Lol right! Like I said..I was skeptical to post about it but it's really hurting my little brother.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:19pm

GASP! SMs are perfect. BMs are horrible. (but not the SMs that have their own bio children) DUH! Wink

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:24pm

All of her bio children are grown. I brought up to zbM that maybe that's why she feels she needs to control this situation but I dont know :?

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:26pm

I guess I am trying to figure out why you are all so up in arms over the GF-the DAD is the one who did it. Doesn't make much sense.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:32pm

It sounds like the GF has done some mean things DIRECTLY to her brother.

If a SM does something DIRECTLY to my BS, you better believe I am going to take issue with her and his dad. But just because BD is the BD doesn't mean that SM gets off the hook.

While I think bio parents need to be the advocates for their children and if the person they are dating/married to is being abusive/mean/whatever to the kid, the bio parent needs to put an end to it, But that doesnt meant the SM gets a pass.

I call bad behavior when I see it. No matter who it is or what the relations are.

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Submitted by momandmore on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:34pm

Maybe it's the way I'm being told about the happenings but the dad never ever.ever acted like this before.

It's not my situation but I hear about it for days every time something happens. GF is hurting my brother but ultimately Its the dad doing it because he is letting it go on. I completely understand that.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 01/08/2015 - 1:20pm

I feel for your brother. Nothing to add but sympathy. I hope it all works out for him.