Ok so to give some history of this relationship with both my Fiance and my skids, and well as his ex I will start here.....
The 3 skids use to come over ALL the time, weekends only at first until summer arrived a few years ago.....When their father(my fiancé) started back at a temp job, I was stuck with all of his children, and of course my bio son was here too all summer long the first summer he moved in with me. Little did I know that he would have any sort of parenting issues, but I learned that the hard way. Not only were his children spoiled, but spoiled on a level that I can never fathom, almost to a point of obsession.
He thought the world of his kids, until one day , wicked old BM starting feeding these lovely, disgusting things to her 3 kids about my fiancé. They were told on the weekends that they were not with us that their father was a deadbeat, left their mother for another women, and was a wife beater. As children, they were confused and questioned my fiancé, and my fiancé had to do damage control every time he got to visit with his kids. Furthermore, these 3 skids of mine were filling my 9 year old head with bad words, bad behavior tactic, etc... Until one night my fiancé was at work, and called me and told me that his kids were complaining that I was not feeding them....I nearly fell off my chair when I got this angry call from him....First for believing this non-sence, especially after all the crap we went through with BM, and how she would threaten me since he started to bring his children around me, etc....Not only was I feeding them, but I was feeding them to the nines, and I was taking them every where with me, and buying them presents, and more, treating them as if they were my very own. Especially knowing that they have such a rough time at home with BM....I took them all in , and had such a special place in my heart for them all. I would actually cry at night knowing they had been so badly treated by BM all this time. However looks and actions can be very deceiving. Not that they were not telling us the truth, because they were, but they would tell us everything good about us, and then run home to BM and say we neglected them. These children were desperate for affection and attention from BM they started lying to her to get what they needed when they were not in our household. Of course this caused HUGE problems with the BM, and she swore that the children would never be allowed over to our house. After months of not seeing his children, she finally agreed to release them, and of course it was only because he had threatened her to call his attorney for keeping the children away , and in addition to not being hoe to supervise them, he threatened to call Child services.....After months of fights and lies, etc, the children continued to act out, more an more they were at our home, when finally one night the oldest posted something publically about her father, and that sent my fiancé in a tail spin, at that point, amoungst so much more, it caused the 2 oldest to no longer be allowed in my home with the abuse they were doing to me physically. This is when I sought out a therapist.
During this time, I tolerated being kicked punched, bit, and cursed at while my fiancé was out of the house and I just had it. I told my fiancé time and time again that this was going on and he didn't believe me, even had a talk with them, both alone and with me and the 2 oldest denied the incidents ever happened.
Finally I got smart and video tapped their what they were doing to me, and only after watching the video , he originally said I made up, he believed the situation and the 2 oldest were never to come back again.......When they were at my house I also had to clean their rooms and the mess that I found up there with dirty dished laundry and bugs was just past my threshold. But the worst was when the oldest left her tampons on the floor, dirty , and this is just the beginning.......