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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 8:18pm

I am done. I am getting my house ready to sell-for those of you that know me, DH's ex lives right across the street.

It's really not HER that bothers me as much as SD and SS being over there too. They have had nothing to do with DH for years, and now if he is out working in the yard, SD walks to the road to say hi and he is overcome with joy. She is not allowed in my home, so they meet in the street.

These are the same ijits that would not tell DH where they lived for years, refused to come for visitation, and have been world class assholes. I bite my tongue every time to keep from telling DH "Well, she wouldn't even TALK to you except it's convenenient to her. You wouldnt even know where she lived if she didn't live ACROSS THE STREET!"

At least if we move he can see how much of an effort she is willing to make to have a relationship. I bet there will be no effort at all.

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Submitted by twopines on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 8:22pm

You've been wanting out of that house for years. I hope you and DH are able to get far far away!

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 8:54pm

Apparently she was cheating on the husband she was cheating on DH with with this guy. Which means she was probably cheating on DH with him at some point in time, too. Who knows? She wanted to get back with DH after her last marriage imploded, so maybe she thought if she lived close by he would want her back?
We live in the house that her and DH owned. She was desperate to get back in the neighborhood, I guess!

Its not like the neighbor is a prize. He moved in with his mom,(it was her house) then promptly put her in a nursing home and moved Asshat in. He has a DUI, restraining orders, was rumored to be a drug runner....actually he is right up Asshat's alley.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 9:28pm

That is so true! BioMonster took on a whole new level of crazy when DH and I got together.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 9:27pm

If they were minors, bm should've been the one telling dh where they lived. As she and dh should've been teaching them to deal appropriately with their feelings because other kids not related to them got their dad full time. Do you not see how his adopting your kids would make them even just a tad resentful, right or wrong? To them as kids, it wouldn't matter if their dad was paying cs and still trying to see them while your kids' dad wasn't involved. Lots of people end up feeling hurt and misplaced in step situations. If that wasn't the case this site would not exist.

It was bms and dhs job to make these kids good people and they both failed (to varying degrees). Did he do anything to counteract the pas? He could've done things better too. It never ceases to amaze me how the men in these situations get off scot free while sms, sks and bms wind up hating each other's guts.

Of course he's happy to see sd. You are entitled to loathe her and he is entitled to still love her as his child. People here have written about their kids doing worse things, and still love them.

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Submitted by twopines on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:02pm

I assume you didn't purposely leave out commenting on the cheating mom, and how THAT might have made the kids feel. Or did you? To them as kids, it's probably a WRONG thing, don't you think? No grey area there.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:11pm

Oh no, don't you know? To SOME posters, the BM does no wrong. Boinking the preacher who officiated your sisters( and your kids aunt's) funeral while married to their dad isn't anything the kids should feel upset about at all....not to mention doing drugs with her minor children. But my big bad wolf of a DH hurt their fee fees by adopting my kids. ..eyerollintothebackofmyheadsofarIcanseemyskull

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Submitted by twopines on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:21pm

Mom gets off scot free because she cheated and created the whole divorce situation where DH pays CS each and every month on time without fail. Damn your DH. All his fault for not trying harder to...something about PAS...blah blah.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:22pm

I have to say, it's very entertaining. Can't wait to see what comes next LOL

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Submitted by twopines on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:26pm

I'm sure someone will come along shortly to say you're not their mother and should have stayed out of the years of legal stuff your money was helping to pay. We can write the script.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:33pm

Oh yes...followed by:

I should have still bought them Christmas presents and gave them money, and since I didn't I am a heartless, cold bitch.
We could totally make a drinking game out of it.

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Submitted by twopines on Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:37pm

Now THAT is something we need. We'd be plowed in about 10 minutes depending who is posting at the time.

Yes, the little darlings still need Christmas presents, and only buying for your kids and not them is incredibly mean and how does that make them feel? Maybe we should ask your MIL her opinion?

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Sun, 01/04/2015 - 8:55am

HRNYC,

I was wondering where you were. I knew you couldn't help yourself, lol.
Is that the best you could come up with? I'm mean spirited? Goodness, The fumes in your basement must be getting to you.