The Christmas Holiday has been one pleasant surprise after another. SD10 has been here since December 22 and I will be the first to admit the girl has been less emotional. The few times she tried to get crazy DH nipped it in the bud so quickly my jaw dropped in shock. BioD11 and Sd10 are cordial to one another and that is terrific. Everyone has done their part in making Christmas peaceful. Also when it's necessary that I disengage I go in our bedroom pour a glass of wine and watch Patrice O'Neal's Elephant in the room and laugh until it hurts. What I realize is I must take SD10 in dosages because she still is annoying. With DH guidance things are improving. Now I know I shouldn't have but I checked DH texts (as I do from time to time) and saw a few texts from BM saying she's sad (BS she was going out of her way to send SD10 over here) and maybe she should have came with SD10 for Christmas and SD10 wanted all of them to spend the holidays together. What does she mean? Just the three of them like they're a family? DH says in a round about sort of way that the answer is NO but maybe in the future. I came clean with the snooping and made it clear that BM will never be welcomed in this house EVER. BM needs to find a family of her own and I demanded he get on the phone and tell her this before I get on the phone and say it. BM needs to recognize there are boundaries and DH needs to establish these lines, clearly.