Before SGD moved out all DH and I ever fought about was her. Since she left I have actually seen him. And I'm not happy
4 different times in a 2 month time period DH breaks our budget agreement. And then get mad at me for calling him a liar. Long story short, he would get on Amazon first thing in the morning on either of our paydays and spend hundreds. Before any bill was pay. We agreed to set and budget and he was to wait until after all bills were paid. He broke the agreement 4 times. I told him breaking an agreement is the same as lieing. He got mad at me. One thing he bought he had promised my DD. I told him put it up for Christmas. After we talked everything out he gave it to her. Even though we had agreed it would be for Christmas. Then he took DD to the store and talked to her about our fight.
He took SGDs kindle away for unlocking the Internet and looking up porn. Told her she will never get it back. Now, he is going to give her his old one and a $25 kindle gift card he already bought. Actually told me, well she isn't getting hers back and she is at her moms. I'm just going to technically give it to her mom. WTF ever!!! Please.
We have had promblems with our landlord and the electrical in this house. Legal advice told us to stop paying rent send a certified notice to landlord. At the beginning of the month DH and I made an agreement (we split our rent into two payments) we would pay the beginning of the month and give the landlord 2 weeks to fix it. If not, we wouldn't pay. They came and did half.. After we went without heat for a week and made it clear they were violating our rights. When they came and fixed half of the issue, they got DH alone. All of a sudden DH is standing there with the landlords employee convincing me to pay the other half. He even started talking about how "you" (meaning me) really shouldn't do this. I straight out said, really DH?? It was us until the got you alone. So he paid even knowing I didn't want to until it's fixed. And he was going back on another agreement with me.
The issue with the house that isn't ours has now cost us $7500. I had to take a loan out for $2500 about a month ago to fix some of it. DH blew $778 of that in 2 days before I could get the problem paid for. Had to take another $800 loan. DH told me, me getting the loans is the same as him spending because I didn't ok it by him. I told him, I'm fixing a problem you have dragged your feet on and the landlord has dragged his feet on for 15 months. I'm done. Somehow I'm still wrong. He sees nothing wrong with all the money he has cost us, all the money he has blown, and turning on me when it comes time to stand up.
Tuesday I torn the muscle in my shoulder. Wednesday I went Thanksgiving shopping with Bs. DH stayed home. Thursday I did 98% of everything. DH stayed in bed. Friday DH made plans to go to OSDs knowing YSD and her BF were coming over and then we were going to a friends. He flaked on OSD. Then made plans with her (I'm the last to find out) to go over there Saturday. He flaked. I had to work with DD on a model of earths layers. Knowing I had a torn shoulder, I had to take her to get the supplies, and cut the section out of the foam balls for her. I couldn't sleep until 430am last night I was in so much pain. I was up, so I straighten the paper mâché on the ball. DH comes out "what are you doing" "fixing some of the bumps" "at 230 in the morning? Why don't you let DD do that?" I told him it will be dry by then and unfixable. I'm already up. So he storms off to bed. Spends all day in bed today only gets up to come find me to find out why BS was running the bath. I posted about that already. So maybe my response to him wasn't the greatest but damn it, figure it out yourself!!!!
So after all of this... I'm starting to really see DH differently and it's affecting how I feel about him and how much I respect him.