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Uh oh, is DH trying to pave the way for a reconciliation?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 1:02pm

So yesterday we were talking about plans for the next few weekends. DH is going to see SD21 at college one weekend in September and said something about "us" or "we." I said, "Oh, no, I'm not going." SD21 has treated me like crap for years. No way I'm driving 10 hours to see her. Plus our two BDs have activities.

DH is like, "No, of course I know you're not going." OK, good. But then he says, "I think SD21 may be close to apologizing to you." I told DH years ago that I was done with SD21 until she was grown up enough to apologize and admit what she did wrong to me. And I guess, according to DH, last time he saw SD21 she mentioned wanting to, I think, apologize to me? For a minute I thought I saw pigs fly.

Anyway, I think DH brought that up so that I'd be kindly disposed toward SD21 in case she deigned to stop treating me like crap and instead act like a decent human being. I don't know though. I don't really see that happening, so maybe I am safe?

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Submitted by amber3902 on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 1:20pm

Being "close to apologizing" and actually apologizing are two different things.

I wouldn't hold my breath on that one. I also would not make a 10 hour car ride to see her on the off chance that she's "might" apologize, good for you for saying you're not going.

If she wants to apologize, she has a phone, she can dial your number. Or better yet, SHE can make the 10 hour car drive to see you and apologize face to face.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 1:23pm

Exactly. If she truly wants to apologize, she'll make the effort. She'll drive to you and give a sincere apology. Her being "close to apologizing" is a steaming pile of horse crap.

I don't blame you one bit. I wouldn't go either.

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Submitted by hangingbyathread6 on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 1:56pm

^^^^THIS!!! My OSS was "working on" apologizing to me and my daughters for a total of three months...when did he finally apologize to me? When I told DH the kid has not done what he was supposed to do, now the consequences need to be enforced. It's been three months. Funny...that SAME day, OSS came and apologized...tears and all... gag

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 5:04pm

Eh, it is what it is. It sure hasn't brought us closer, that's for sure. He tried to say they weren't having contact anymore, but then I went on his phone and found she'd called him that day (he didn't answer), then texted asking where he was (he did answer), and he had her picture on his phone in the folder with all the family photos. So we had another row over that one, the next day he told me he deleted the photo. It's like I can't even work up the energy to care enough to have a fit about this, do you understand what I am saying?