Normally BM would be blowing up our cell ....but silence
:jawdrop: After last night I seriously expected BM to do what she always does. Take the night to "collect her thoughts" after DH has put her in her place and start text bombing the next morning. DH just called me on his break and still nothing! I don't think she knows what to do with the info that DH has adopted BS6. I figured she knew by now cuz SD is fully aware. Also I suppose its a little hard to argue that DH has more cause for concern with her husband having made her choke herself. Yeah IM the one who needs to be worried about. Last night was crazy and stressful for me but I learned some things out of it. I guess I shouldn't be so surprised to learn BM is so jealous of me. I always figured she is so damn full of herself shes not jealous of me. My life maybe. The fact that Im with DH maybe (Im pretty sure she still loves him even though shes remarried). I KNOW shes jealous of the fact that we somehow afford a truck, a larger family car, a "hot rod" as the kids call it, and a camper. (Your jaw would drop at the seriously good deals we got on these things-DH watches and holds out for good deals and can fix up anything!). But me personally? Never thought Id see the day when she made it so pathetically obvious that's her issue. DH was laughing about it again when he called me. Even he is kind of stunned about it. I think Im still in shock. Deff put a diff perspective on things for me.
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Think a lot of our high
Think a lot of our high conflict BMs clearly choose to stay unhappy. For our BM, it was easier to envy & terrorize rather than to fix herself. She needed the chaos to control
I think you hit the nail on the head with that one.
DH was telling me last night
DH was telling me last night that BM was like this all the way back in high school. I guess her mother was a real gem too. Plus BMs parents got together after their other kids were older so BM was much younger and the baby until they had her younger brother much later on. She was seriously babied and catered to. ANd her mother was a very jealous person. (Her husband cheated on her at work all the time-apple/tree...anyway). DH said he used to say thing to BMs grandmother (like 80) "hey good looking!" "Or damn you look nice today, wanna go out?" SHe used to blush and smile. DH does the same thing to my grandmother. Asks her when they are gonna run away together all the time. Cracks her right up! She loves it! But BMs mother would actually get jealous DH didn't talk to her like that! SHe actually got mad and asked him one time why he doesn't! DH was like ummm that's just rude. Obviously im not hitting on and 80 yr old. But her he could have actually been hitting on which is inappropriate. She didn't get it and was still mad about it. Then BM got mad that her mother was acting like that.....That's right ladies, keep passing on that crazy! Good Lord.
Lol...Love that last line
Lol...Love that last line }:) Actually the only way DH wants to communicate with her is through some form of writing so its all there for proof in court if needed. We have every text to and from her for the last 2-3 years. In person and phone calls are a joke. SHe will call here scream at DH. Call him every name in the book, then when he tries to respond she hangs up. Its pointless and pisses DH off more than texts. One of these days a judge is going to see all of her texts and hopefully put her in a mental institution. lol I think DH is handling her great lately though. Hes calling her out on all her bullshit and sticking to facts. If we had not sent SDs summer journal back to BMs house we would have gotten a load of shit for it and called bad parents and would have been told we don't care about SD and we don't take her school stuff seriously. DH thinks she "forgot" to send it here cuz SD hasn't had shit to write about in it while she was at her house. Here its "today I played with my cousins!" "Today I went on the waterslide!" "Today I went camping in the camper!", etc. But BM says "Well try to have fun at daddys baby."...lol whatever. I just cant believe I didn't see it before. And honestly SD and I have been wonderful, even better then before this happened and we were already pretty close. I still regret what I said but in the end I think all worked out for the best and BM doesn't even know what to say which is wonderful!
She needed the chaos to
She needed the chaos to control, not only is that crazy thinking but that's delusion at its finest.
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Makes sense, needs chaos to control. I will take that further...my BM, needs chaos to control bc DSO can not function or think clearly in the chaos and, of course, she knows this. DSO is very, very laid back so when the insanity and chaos and phone blowing up starts, he act like a chicken with its head cut off. He will make stupid decisions or just go along with what the crazy says bc he can't keep up with it or think logically...why is she doing this and what can he do to not make it worse.
That's probably what BM is
That's probably what BM is trying to do most of the time. DH made a good point last night too. SHes realized he isn't getting as wound up as she would like and saying things that could bite him in the ass later. He responds with fact, logic, and reason. She isn't getting her drama fix that way so now shes coming after me for it. Glad DH gave me the time to calm down last night and talk about things before he responded to her. Hopefully SD wont tell her how upset I got from it but if she does oh well. Cant change it now. Ill have to keep SD busy so she forgets about it...hopefully
Oh sometimes he looses his
Oh sometimes he looses his shit on her but really not very often. He honestly gets a kick out of showing her when shes making herself look stupid. I thanked him a bunch last night though for how he handled the whole situation. Me, BM, and SD. He handled it all perfectly
I bet you the next thing we
I bet you the next thing we see is her trying to get it so her husband can adopt SD. Finding out that DH adopted BS I bet she thinks theres a way to do it without DH consenting and that will NEVER happen. Waiting to see if her crazy ass mind goes there now......