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Its coming down the Pipe I feel he is going to say skids are coming over for weekend

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So my DH arrives home from work last night(later than usual, these is more than once this week)
He sits down in his usual position and starts Yapping about his nasty kids. I normally walk away , but this time I was in the middle of doing something in the room and wanted to finish up and head to bed(laundry, YUck, LOL )
So as he tells me about his kids, of course the 2 younger ones are still NOT talking to him, but oldest is. And guess why, because she needs money! What a BIG surprise. Just as I always said to him. They are nice when they need something.
So as I pretend to not listen, he tells me the oldest told him she want to go to some concert By herself w friends and needs $200 dollars to go, because BM wont give her any money. BM instead is using her CS to support her drinking, and drug habit, and new venture(she thinks she has the skills to sell misc stuff)(according to kids). Now who would let any 15 year old go to a rap concert by themselves? I don't know about any of you, but when I was 15 my father & mother would have handed me my ass if I even thought for one second that I could go to a concert by myself. My DH is out of his mind. Again always look to appease these kids, and do whatever they want. He is letting her go, giving her $ ( I guess our household bills mean shit to him) and I didn't even make a remark at all. His is starting to make me sick with this shit.
Again just more proof that DH just appeases these kids requests.
Not to mention its the weekend, and I fear he is going to pop the statement on me that ALL of a sudden he's talking with his kids again, and they want to come over again! Well Oh, Hell No! I am so sure that I will file for divorce(LOL) if these kids come here again. I have not even touched on the issues I have with my skid's and what they do to me and my son. I don't want them in my house EVER again, and def not when my DH is at work. And he is due to work all weekend. I am not a babysitter, and they are NOT my kids so I don't want them there torturing me.
Not to mention we were invited to a few family get togethers, and my skids always refuse to go to anything like that because they are hermits, and like to be unsocial with anyone other than their BM and her whore friends, and multiple male callers.

On top of it, I feel like something is just not right, at least as of the last few days. My DH has been arriving home late for the last few days.
I am trying not to let my mind wonder, but I feel like he's maybe going over to see the skid's with out me knowing. Don't get me wrong, I would be happier than a pig in shit if that's the way he would handle seeing the kids rather than bringing them to the house. But I still don't think it would be right to lie to me and not tell me. Again not to mention the Issues we also have with the BM. I am not comfy with him over there with her. Almost every time he has been over there she has called the police on him, saying he's harassing her, and sadly one time he actually got locked up last year for it. So I don't know what to believe. But I do know that the BM is Trouble, spelled with a capital "T". And I don't think he should have any visits in the BM house. It just makes a conflict in our relationship. He would not like if I did some shit like that.
And then of course I am then questioning other things. Sorry for the rant , but I find my peace in venting here. Sometimes even writing my crap down like this makes me feel better, LOL.

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lostbroken's picture

Ripleyv2, thank you kindly for your advice.That would be a great idea, but I have asked Dh these same questions in the past. I have kindly asked him so kindly to see his children outside the home, and I have also asked him not to tell me about skids. I have tried this approach so many times. I am just such a push over, and have been tolerating this for so long that this stuff has all come to a head for me, and now I am angry. That's what landed me here for advice, LOL. Wink

lostbroken's picture

Wow ripleV2, thank you so much for all your advice! You are so kind for giving me such sound & wonderful advice. I will be heading to library this evening to look for books such as those you mentioned. I agree , I need him to hear my voice. Things are getting a little out of control in my household with my skid's and I need some help. Help with talking with DH and help with this skid's. I just cant take much more.
Again thank you so much! I will be trying my best to have my little voice heard, LOL
I hope you have a very wonderful weekend

lostbroken's picture

Awe RileyV2, you are a doll! Thank you so much for your support!
I will put my best foot forward and give this a whirl! Smile This is great, many many thanks to you :):)