Misery! I Hate these Skid's
Well another night of hell. I left my house yesterday and had to go relax at a family member house with my BS. After 2 nights of complaints from DH and these damn unruly, rude, lying, snotty mini-wife skid's, I have had it!
I did unplug the internet and the TV at one point during my weekend adventure. I had a great time doing so. I knew it was driving my skid;s nuts. But it ended up with lots of calls and texts from DH as to why the internet wasn't working. I just said I didn't know, maybe its the weather, LOL . }:) Of course right before he returned home from work I would plug it back in. So he would check it for his "princesses" and it would be working Just fine. making them look like retards!
So I had lots of fun with that. I will be doing the internet trick until I drive them out of my house.
I am now not speaking to my DH. Which at this point makes me sick to my stomach.
After arriving home from family last evening, I was greeted with a house that would be fit for a PIG! As usual, I come home to my house trashed. It was as if the Tazmainian devil himself whirled through my home.
Again, the cups, plates, forks spoons, knives, crumbs, cookies, cake, chips and now ice cream ALL over the place. You would think that they would at least put their shit in sink. I mean come on. The sink is less than 1 foot from your mess. WTF? Oh and how I love the garbage "outside" of the garbage can. Really??? dumb bitches, you can get what little trash you do put in the garbage , "IN The Garbage"!!!!!. I left EVERYTHING to DH, including the task of feeding his Bitches. And I just love how they are ransacking my house, showing no respect for anything what so ever, and then I walk in the door, and they run upstairs as if they were Vampires, and I was the sunlight. (trust me I'm not complaining, LOL. But them running , just proves to me they are guilty of something) But the moment DH comes home, its like they come out of their PIG sty, and start with there manipulations the moment he walks in the door.
Now my DH comes home and instead of getting mad at THEM, he gets annoyed with me! I was in the bedroom laying down , as it was just about my bedtime. He comes barging in the door mad at me that the mess all over the house was not cleaned up. Well DH, why don't you talk to your kids about that, I say. Yesterday, ya cleaned all their mess up, and never disciplined them. There for you just reinforced that they could make a mess, not get in trouble, and NOT have to clean it or account for it.
My DH's words to me were, and I quote, You do you, then DW"
WTF, was that little wise ass comment about???? Me do me??? what in god's green earth is he implying.
Oh no, I am thinking, Is he expecting me to clean his kids SHIT? Well hell no. He was all on board with all of this we discussed , but now he's not? This is crazy. I don't know what tactic these kids have played this time, but they won him over AGAIN???? WTF is going on?
My DH left me in the bedroom ,( which is not our normal routine especially on a sunday night) while he closed the door, ( he closed the GD damn, is he on crack? He has NEVER done that before ever! And then he called his two nasty ass kids downstairs & spend time out in the family room with his two Ratty , lying , snotty, manipulative bitches. I am thinking to myself, WTF is going on? Has he lost his head? What happened to him being on board with me as a team? And How dare him shut the door on me. I swear I was about to go out like a raging lunatic, when I thought to myself, "it's NOT worth it" So I just laid back in bed, and said to myself that I need to take a few deep breathes and calm down, and that's just what I did.
Apparently, after they got board of him, I heard them run upstairs, like a herd of elephants, that they are. And DH remained on the couch. Apparently he was pissed I didn't cook for them too. I heard that part of their convo clearly. His daughters complained that I didn't once come upstairs to give them any food. And DH agreed with them! Is he Fucking kidding me. I swear to god, I am starting to wonder what he says about me when he goes up into their rooms. No wonder these kids have no damn respect for me. He has NO respect for me either!!!. They are treating me the same way he must be treating me, but I have been too blind to see this. I don't Know about any one else, but I don't think my DH should be having ANY conversations about me or my relationship with his kids at all. They should not be involved. But apparently my DH seems to think they have privy to my personal life.
I have no clue what time my DH finally got to bed last night. He never spoke with me, and when I left for work this morning the mess that was made last night, was still there. He didn't clean a think. It's just real funny that he cleaned the mess the night before. But now last night, he pretty much said "fuck you" to me. And by shutting me out , and hanging with his kids and shutting my bedroom door, I feel like I have been slapped in the face, and kicked to the curb. I have to be honest, this feels like the beginning of the end. You know when you get that bad gut feeling? Well I got it this morning.
He's not speaking to me AT all, and frankly at this point, if he choses to side with these Bitches, then so be it. Then he can go live with them elsewhere. How does he not see he's being played. What, until the next time they don't want to speak to him for another 6 months at aclip. He swore he would not succumb to their bullshit games again?
I am truly fit to be tied. I am an emotional mess, and I am very hurt by what he has done to me? This was not normal behavior my DH is displaying.
I just don't know how he does not see what's going on here. Sorry for the long rant, I need to get this all out 
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My DH is the same way. He's
My DH is the same way. He's on board with taking care of his own kids until he actually has to do it. I feel I am in the same position as you. The only time DH and I are okay is when I'm taking care of everything. As soon as I'm not, all the love, affection is gone and I get the attitude. And all of it for two kids who could care less about him. BM has made sure of that.
It may be the end but at least you won't be wasting any more of your time with someone who doesn't deserve you.
Stay strong lostbroken.
Thank you sports Fan, I
Thank you sports Fan, I really appreciated your kind words. I am just torn up about this. He really did the same as you described, he is some sort of way is punishing me, and for what? I just don't get it. Last week he said he was not going to deal with this bullshit from them anymore. Yet last night, it was a difference story. He is down right pissed at me. Its just so sad. I don't think he gets it. It's not like he has 3 loving kids. The kids hate him, and use him. We have both heard it with our own ears. Yet he still gets over-taken by their antics. I am trying my best to stay strong, but I can't play this game much longer. Sad for him, because when the shit all falls apart, and I am no longer around, and his kids don't want to see him again for a long stretch, he will have no one else to blame but himself. He created this, along with BM. Shame on all of them....
I am sorry to hear you are going threw same. No one should ever have to endure this bullshit. Its just not right. Please stay strong too Sports Fan, and keep your chin up. Hugs to you !
I would suggest doing a 180.
I would suggest doing a 180. He expects you to get upset - it shows you still care. Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate - it's indifference. Get indifferent! Google Marriage 180.
Thank you blending2012! I
Thank you blending2012! I will Certainly look that up. You are right, he is use to me getting mad and upset. And maybe he was testing that theory when he shut the door on me. But I didn't budge on that. I really tried to keep my cool. But honestly, today I feel like I am going to explode. I don't even think I can go home after work today. I might lose my shit and tell him to get the hell out. Thank you so much for all your support. I think I need to check that out, and see how to marriage 180.
Sounds pretty much like my
Sounds pretty much like my life.............my DH ALWAYS chooses the skids. And when he's mad at me and not speaking to me that's when he really cranks it up with the kids! Taking them places, heaping on the attention, etc. He's so passive agressive showing me who he is choosing. And of course SD (she's 18) is just all happy and bubbly cuz she's got all the attention and they both treat me like a piece of $@*&! It's sickening. I told my DH a couple times that I don't have a husband I'm married to the father of someone else's kids.
I know the sick to your stomach feeling too. I've had it for the last six weeks.
Oh My Steppy MN2, I am so
Oh My Steppy MN2, I am so sorry you are going though this too. Its heartbreaking, and to see our DH's really pile it on, its mind blowing. How would they feel if we did this to them? And you are right, its like being married to a man who is a father of a kid. Its heart breaking, and so upsetting. I am sick to my stomach too.I feel like I can't even function, its horrible. I wish you the best with your situation, and thank you so much for all your support! I wish you strength and hugs! Stay strong. :):)
Wow Sally that was so well
Wow Sally that was so well said! Thank you so much for putting things into perspective for me. Wow, holy shit you are so right. He did send me to bed like a child, LOL. I think your tactic of not seeing, hearing or doing anything is fantastic! I most Certainly don't clean up or cook anymore. I sued to, and I used to get abused. I remember cleaning up the skid's room one evening as those two manipulators sat on their beds playing on the computers. And didn't even say "thank you" & handed me a empty bag of chips that was stuffed down the side of the bed, and said to me, "here you go, while you are cleaning, you might as well take this too" (that was SD14) after I cleaned up clothing, cups, food items, wrappers, juice boxes, dirty underwear, vacuuming, etc. Oh Hell no! I learned my lesson real fast with that crap, and I have never ever done it again. I actually cried after that episode. I felt like Cinderella, and I was being tormented at the same time. I am going to play "really" stupid for now on. In the meantime. I thing I should get my affairs in order just in case. DH refused to speak to me, and I am just sick over it. Its so funny how his kids say and do the nastiest thing to him, and he still speaks to him. But he gets a bug up his ass, and stop speaking to me because the "princesses" say I didn't cook them dinner? I haven't cooked for them since the last time they were at the house. I stopped doing that. I guess DH thought I was just protesting or something, and figured I would give in.
I can sure use it 
I am going to try so hard to walk around like a happy person, and clueless, but I swear my blood is boiling, so its going to take all I have not to pop my cork!
Thank you so much for all your kind support.
Sally I am so excited to hear
Sally I am so excited to hear that the playing stupid thing worked for you. It gives me such great hope. I am so worried that my marriage is in trouble with all this turmoil. I really need to get things in order. I think getting a hobby is a great idea. Anything that will annoy my skid's is good for me. I thing some sort of quilting, or knitting, is a super idea. Then I can sprawl out all over my family room and keep the skid's out of my hair.
I would much rather them to go home to BM as DH and I agreed, but I see my DH has gone soft on me and doesn't look like I have a leg to stand on at all. This makes me very upset.
I am so happy to hear things are heading in the right direction for you. I am trilled to hear that good news! Thank you so much for all your help and support. I am sending you hugs and happy thoughts, and keep on quilting! That is fantastic! I hope I can be as brave and as strong as you.
RipletV2, thank you very much
RipletV2, thank you very much for your suggestions.
I told DH that I would "not" watch them while he was at work. We agreed on that indefinitely. I haven't changed with that at all. I told DH that I was not a babysitter. This is after I also had an agreement with DH that these children were not allowed at our home anymore. Especially after the stealing incident. But DH seems to do what suits him best, and what works for him, and not works for us a family(or what we agreed upon) I think setting rules is a very wonderful idea. Though I wish he would just take them home to BM and call it a day. We have sat the skids, down in the past and told them of the rules and consequence, but DH never ever enforces them. Then when I come in to enforce, they end up telling my DH venomous lies, and stuff that never happened. Hence the reason why I retreat to my room, and I do not even associate with them at all. I don't feel this is fair. I kind of feel uncomfortable in my home sometimes. Like I have to walk on eggshells around the skid's in fear they will make up some bullshit that I said or did. Lord known’s they have done this in the past to me. So I just feel like my back is up against the wall. He won't parent, or enforce. And when I do, I do it wrong, or hurt their feelings (which is just non sense, they are playing him again)
I will try my best to talk to DH again and see if he will sit with them and go over rules. It’s just really bothers me to have to do it at all. We truly agreed that they are not to come here to our home anymore. And by me sitting down and discussing Consequences, feels as if I am saying it’s Ok to letting them stay, and I am not ok with this. I just feel backed in a corner.
Thank you so much for all your advice and help. You are so very kind, and I need as much help as I can get
I agree with Sally. But FIRST
I agree with Sally.
But FIRST you have to make a decision. Do you divorced him and leave him with his mini-wife bitches? Or do you stay and fight for your marriage?
IF you decide your marriage is worth staying and fighting for, then you have to do a better job, because at this point it sounds like the Mini-Wives are winning hands down.
Get out your halo, polish it up, and get used to wearing it whenever your husband is around. Play "stupid," be innocent, or whatever you need to do... play their game, just play it better. Let your husband see your vulnerability. Blink your big innocent eyes, let them fill with tears, and tell him how utterly exhausted you are and how you can't keep up with all the housework without their cooperation and help. You just don't understand why they treat you this way. You've aaasskked them again and again to pleeeaasse put their trash INSIDE the can... You get the picture. Become Little Red Riding Hood rather than the Big Bad Wolf.
Once your husband is on your side, whenever you're alone with the mini-wives, wear your crown and impose consequences of your own. Can't see to hit the trash can? Then you get to pick up all the trash around the house and take it out to the dumpster. Crumbs on the couch? I guess you're not allowed to eat in the living room, dear stepbrat, if you can't behave like a human.
My husband has issues following through on consequences for behaviors he hasn't witnessed BUT he will totally back me up if my consequences are reasonable... and it's hard to argue with "natural consequences" for bad behavior.
My journey with my SD12 mini-wife is chronicled in my blog "A Little Stepmama Drama," if you are interested. I am recovering from a horrible week with her last week (this week she is with BM). Planning to write another blog as soon as I get my steam back.
I wish you all the best.
KatieLee, You are right! I
KatieLee, You are right! I thank you so much for all your support and great ideas. I guess it is time for me to take out the halo, and then the crown when he is not around. Again the skid's here is not what we agreed upon. And yes these damn mini wife bitches are winning, and I have to stop it dead in it's tracks. I am going to try my best and fight for my marriage as long as I can. I feel defeated already, but I need to put my big girl pants on and step it up!
I am super excited to read your blog. I am so sorry that you have had a horrible week. I hope you are getting some R&R and peace and quiet this week while SD mini wife bitch is with BM. I send you lots of hugs, and support. Stay strong,and thank you so very much. I can certainly use all the help I can get.
Thank you wayinovermyhead.
Thank you wayinovermyhead. You are correct in saying that I do not have any control over this situation at all. It did speak volumes to me that he closed the door on me. This behavior has never happened before. I was so mad I was going to explode. But that is what he would expect from me. I am trying to continue to disengage from all of this. And now with another posters suggestion , start the marriage 180 as well. Maybe this will get stuff in order again.
I really don't have a high tolerance for any of this. I am about to break. And for me that means leaving the situation. Maybe leaving is the right thing to do. I have been married fro a few years with my DH and really wanted to try and work though this. However, I think all that has gone on, and what is still going on is beyond what I can handle.
I hope to have my house running in tip top shape too, but with resistance from DH its making it nearly impossible. Its even more impossible that he jumped ship from me , and now is on their band-wagon. I just don't understand. I am trying to wrap my head around it , and can't. Thank you so much for all your support. Hugs to you..
Sweet pea, I started with the
Sweet pea, I started with the pictures last night. I want to post them in the worst way, I can't even begin to tell you! I don't have any social media. And it took all I had to join this forum. The first thing that Definitely needs to be done is have more door locked at all time. That's where I went wrong in the first place. I just never thought in a million years they would have done anything like this. And even more pathetic is my DH has stopped putting pressure on them about this.
I am going to try and pull my self up, and together today. Maybe I have to create a photo bucket account and post the pics there. I am not much into social media, even though my DH(and it drives me bonkers). Thank you so much for your kind words and support!
LOL Sweet Pea. Thank you so
LOL Sweet Pea. Thank you so much.....You are too funny. Lord knows I would love to humiliate them. But at this point i swear i think nothing is working. I will try my best to stay strong and positive. I am dreading the evening, as my DH leaves for work in a few moments. And I have to say that it has been miserable since I came home today. Ugghh.
Thank you so much for all your support