Is he playing games or in denial?
H asked SD if she wanted to come to BS graduation.
What me and the kids heard was "She'd like to come but she probably won't be able to make it"
H mopes around a bit and goes to bed early without saying goodnight.
BS asks me "Does this'd an I can scalp the rest of the tickets?"
I told him sure, go ahead I don't think SD is coming.
I'd love to but I probably won't to me sounds like a way of gracefully bowing out.
Suddenly when there are no tickets H changed the story.
SD is trying like mad to get off work early so she can go.
Massive explosion and uproar over this.
So I rushed down to the school to locate my son and get two tickets back even though I'm pretty sure SD won't be there.
I kind of feel like H was throwing some kind of fit not because there were no tickets but because she wasn't going and he lashed out at me for it.
Remember me and the kids all three heard him say she probably won't be coming the night before.
I brought home two tickets and guess what?
She didn't come just like we thought.
My husband is uts-nay to the ax-may.
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I was leaning towards denial
I was leaning towards denial until I read how he changed his side of the story. I think (just my guess) that he acted wishy washy in not knowing if SD was going to make it, hoping she could, but he won't hesitate to throw you under the bus if down comes to it. Its a guilty daddy tactic.
Agreeed!@ I dont know about
Agreeed!@
I dont know about your house, but in my house, trying to accommodate a skid always leads to disappointment. So I stopped going out of my way.
I would make sure going
I would make sure going forward he knows, you are not going to such lengths for that child.
All of us, including dad, had
All of us, including dad, had discussed the night before.
We all kind of agreed she wasn't coming.
Dad changed the entire story BC he was desperately hoping she would show up or just to cause a disturbance.
Causing a disturbance over nothing is one of his control/abuse tactics.
Believe me, if I thought there was even a ghost of a chance SD would show those tickets never would have left the house.
I know better than that. He has always been an overly sensitive explosively "guilty daddy". Not sure what he's so guilty about though unless he drove BM into the arms of another man with his raging bullshit.
He'll do this regularly and when the rest of us shut down and distance ourselves accordingly he'll claim some kind of illness/injury the next day-angling for attention or sympathy I guess-hell, IDK.
We're all sick of it.
I wasn't trying to accommodate SD by running after the tix. I was placating him BC he almost looked like he was going to lose control and go physical over it. He is angry and abusive and laying dead for an outburst .
He controls us through anger so I see it as just another BS maneuver on his part to control abuse or get the attentions him or just ruin the night for everyone else god forbid we should be happy about anything for too long.
I'm pretty sure he is PD.
I also wonder if he and SD
I also wonder if he and SD are on the outs.
She hasn't really talked to or texted dad lately but she'll talk to the kids-something she never does-almost looks like she's deliberately snubbing him and rubbing it in his face.
She didn't come but texted him to have BS call her after and didn't talk to dad so to me it looks like she's playing with dad.
I think she is at war with dad or both of us.
It must be awful for dad to get some of what has always been reserved for me.
IDK why everyone can't just get along and be decent.
I played along for a while at the ceremony.
I watched intently for SD's arrival.
"I wonder if she's coming. No sign of her yet. I'll keep an eye out."
Bla, bla, bla. Don't crush his dreams.
The mini wife thing here was fierce for a while.
I think maybe SD has finally moved on.
Him I'm not so sure about.