I just have to say I don't understand how one person can be so manipulative (and the other person just ALWAYS sits back and allows it to happen). SDs are in a play this weekend. Initially we planned on going opening night (last night) with SO's mom (which of course pisses BM off b/c she thinks we should be going to all three performances at $8 per person per show...ha!). BM sent a text earlier in the week asking when we were thinking about going because she was selling some of the tickets and would put some aside for us (according to her the show was almost sold out). First, I thought, "Holy cow! The woman is actually offering to do something nice for us. Maybe she felt bad for being so cruel to SO the other night and claiming she was going to fight for full custody." Then, she sends another text saying we can probably just get the tickets at the door --- contradict yourself much?

Yesterday morning SO's mom asked him if we could just go to the Saturday show. I wasn't feeling too well yesterday and SO told his mom maybe Saturday would be a better option anyway and sure thing, we'll go Saturday. A few hours before the show, SO gets a text from BM asking if it's just the 3 of us going. She didn't even mention if she was putting tickets aside or what ... he informs her we are going Saturday instead. BM then starts going off about how she's not even going to Fri. night performance and that "they will have NO ONE THERE for them tonight" and then she says SDs told her we weren't going b/c I wasn't feeling well. SO corrects that and informs her it's b/c his mom made the request to go on a different night. BM just keeps giving him grief how they will have no one there and she's only going Sat with their 1/2 brother and Sun with her bf and his "peeps" (yes, she's 37 and used the word "peeps") and then they are going to the cast potluck Sun (I was surprised she didn't give him grief about us not going to that as well!). And she was going off about "what if I had already paid for your tickets?" Um, you never offered to pay for them, just to set them aside...

I come out of the bathroom a sweaty mess after showering (it's so hot here and we don't have a/c) and he says, "How do you feel about going tonight." (Side note: I was totally surprised he handed me his phone and let me read the entire conversation between them!) I told him I was feeling better but now his mom would be going alone b/c I don't see the need for us to pay to go again with her (another $16 and gas for an hour round trip!). Then I said, "Oh yeah, your mom doesn't get it about how she's always so friendly to your ex-wife so I guess she can sit with her." I do adore his mom and she & I get along great but I don't like how much she communicates with BM about pretty much everything in life! He says, "Well she can see ex-ss since he'll be there." Ok, fine. We ended up going last night (show wasn't even close to being sold out). SDs did a GREAT job. SD12 had a solo part in one of the songs and she sounded so good. I've been telling SO for over a year now that they need to find her a decent vocal coach and get her some lessons. She's got a good voice. I even started to tear up when she was singing b/c I was so proud of her. I told SO that in the car later and he just gave me a funny look ... I emphasized that I was so proud of her for doing that and getting a solo part and she just sounded so good. Funny thing is they ended up not knowing ahead of time that we were actually going to be there and SD13 looked so surprised when I was standing there with flowers and SO had flowers for SD12 and then SD12 said she was nervous (you could tell a little when she was on stage) but not too nervous b/c she didn't think anyone was there to see her! I guess it worked out well in that aspect! But, I still can't get over how BM just had to keep trying to manipulate SO into going last night ... he told me later that he doesn't understand what her deal is with being at every single show/concert/whatever they do ... he was in lots of things in high school and plays/musicals and he said there'd often be 3 or 4 shows his family couldn't make it to and it never bothered him. At least he realizes you can't be at everything! I know ultimately we did it for SDs but a little bit of it still eats away at me.

Thank goodness it was a good show and they did such a good job! I'm so proud of them!!!