Can anyone say that their sks bm is a good mom?

We hear so many pas stories and stories of neglect and cs not being used on the kids. Can anyone here say that although you and dh have disagreed with bm you both think she is a good mom?

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Yeah that is how ours is.

Yeah that is how ours is. Every now and then SD will talk about something she did with BM and I'm like really?? like a dog standing on his back legs haha. This one time I had to take dinner to a lady from church that lives on the same street as BM and I saw her outside with SD pitching a ball to her. I was so confused. The best way I can describe it is she puts on the face every now and then sort of how people smile for a picture. It's not hard to do if you only have to see your kid for 12 hours a week. For the most part she is self absorbed. Like she might ask to see SD on some weekends but then when it is time to deliver something comes up and she can't get her. Example: on mothers day we didn't hear anything from her that week, or that weekend until about 7 pm that night we got a text from BM asking if SD could stay at BM house. We asked SD what she wanted to do and she said she wanted to finish playing with her friends and then she would let us know. At 8 pm she said she was done playing with her friends and wanted to see BM for mothers day. When SD called BM to tell her she was going to come over as soon as we got her bookbag from the house BM told her she couldn't come because she was out with some friends about to go watch a movie in a city that was about a hour away. WTF?? Was she texting as she pulled out of the drive way??

I can say bm is a good mom.

I can say bm is a good mom. SS24 is messed up but that is his own doing. The more strict she got with him the more bad things he would do. SS21 is a good young adult. They were pains as kids but it was not BM, it was DH playing Disney Dad and MIL coddling them.

I don't talk to BM much but when we do we get along OK. I just didn't like it when she kicked SS24 out when he was 17 cuz then we got stuck with him.

I barely know BM, but from

I barely know BM, but from the few moments I've SEEN, she's not a bad mom. DH says she has good and bad parenting qualities. She didn't PAS, because it was in her best interest to stay on DH's good side before the skids aged out. She didn't squander CS, or any of that stuff.

Mine is. I can't say that we

Mine is. I can't say that we parent exactly the same, but she is a good mom and raised two great boys.my. issues were always husband ones...the kids and their mom were good.

Mine takes SD7 to do fun

Mine takes SD7 to do fun things like ice skating... But she does them during school hours.
She also abandoned SD7 when SD was 2, in order to leave the state and shack up with a druggie... Then again, she didn't take SD and expose her to said druggie...

Does that make her a good parent? :?
Certainly she's not as bad as others on this site. My condolences to you all.

My skids's BM isn't a

My skids's BM isn't a horrible mother, but I don't think she's great by any means. She provided for them just fine. They never had ratty clothes or were deprived of anything. If anything, she over - indulged them and never taught them how to be responsible. She's always been a workaholic so when they were young she wasn't really there. She had an 8-5 job but never got home before 10 pm (by choice, trust me). She pawned them off on her mother or later, her husband. Her not being there resulted in SS doing nothing going but online gaming 24/7 and SD becoming the school slut in high school. When she decided SD was out of control, she shipped her off to relatives in Guatemala for the summer instead of parenting her herself.

These days SS23 is lazy, unambitious and will probably live with us forever. SD20 will probably be a professional student until she's 30 so she can keep living off of everyone and never have to take care of herself.

umm, no I cannot say that

I think she is a good mom.

I think she is a good mom. Her choice to have an affair really did irreparable damage to her family so in that sense, no. Otherwise, I think she cares about her kids a great deal. She's not the mean BM type I've read about. I've never heard or suspected she did anything to demean me in skids eyes.

I think she is a good mom.

BM THINKS she's a good mom

BM THINKS she's a good mom because she's her kids' "best friend." She brags about it, not realizing this is NOT a good thing. When they're adults, fine. Not when they're young. BM buys McDonald's or Burger King or Taco Bell seven days a week, doesn't "force" the kids to go to school or do chores because that would put "too much pressure" on them, and brags about being able to "confide about her issues" with her 15- and 9-year-old. Uh...yeah. That's great, BM. She just doesn't see it.

BM is a good mom, but has not

BM is a good mom, but has not made all good decisions. Her intentions were good, but were not good for SD. BM still tries to micro-manage SD23, so SD23 does not need to be responsible at all, and simply parties all the time. She has not done any favors for SD's ability to grow up.

My BM is a really good mom.

My BM is a really good mom. She's made some questionable decisions but they have a special needs daughter and she takes really good care of her. I've let her off the hook for a lot because I saw how she took care of skid. I don't think I could do all that she does so yes, she's a good mom.

My answer is similar to

My answer is similar to others, ss2 mom thinks she's a good mom and she probably thinks she's a good stepmom too. She loves Ss2 no doubt. She thinks he belongs to her like a possession not a person. Her parenting is not ideal by my or DH pov but atleast she revels in putting on a good show for everyone. She doesn't punish him and gives him whatever he wants. He's a completely different child when he's with her and that's fine bc he doesn't act like that at home with me or his dad.

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