would you a) kiss bms ass so you can see the grands as often as possible or b) if she was a real bitch, just see the grands when they're with your son and hope they reach out to you for a closer relationship when they're older or try reaching out to them when they're older yourself or c) if your son cheated on bm, side with her even if she's a real bitch?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/yourtango/dear-other-woman-10-ways-_b_6290...

And a lot of people disagreed with what the author wrote. I would too if the author's ex cheated on her years ago, but it all sounds pretty recent.

If I was dating a man who was legally married, I would have enough sense to not be in bms presence until the divorce was finalized.

If I was the woman dh cheated with bm on I would not expect bm to do anything less than hate my guts.

I have a good friend who recently got divorced. Her husband had been having an affair with his now-gf.

My friend wants to know what to do to keep her feelings in check. They share kids. As you can imagine, there are times when she just wants to throttle the gf and ex. It sucks balls for her to have to know the kids are going to spend some holidays with her cheating ex and his f!ck buddy. It sucks even more because she didn't do anything to warrant forfeiting time with her kids.

This topic seems to get written about a lot here. I know it was discussed yesterday too- BMs wanting to move just to make life difficult.