NCP moving vs CP moving
This topic seems to get written about a lot here. I know it was discussed yesterday too- BMs wanting to move just to make life difficult.
But what about the Cps who need to move? Who get transferred for work (or their spouse)? Who have an ailing parent? Or who have a better job opportunity come up? Why should it be harder on those Cps to move? I'm sorry, if I'm a CP and I have to transfer, or get a better job offer elsewhere, or have an ailing parent who needs me, I'm outta here. I'm not staying put for anyone if moving can offer a better income for my kids and me, or if my parents are in a position where they're in poor health and need my help. The kids can go with their dad or dad and I will work out an agreement. IMHO Cps should only be allowed to move with the kids if they have one of those situations listed above, or the area they want to move to has their family there to help them.
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Sometimes I feel "stuck"
Sometimes I feel "stuck" where I am at because of my Ex. I wouldnt want to take BS too far from his dad. Even though his dad moved an hour away from our city after we split up. Him moving defintely put all the responsibility on me. But that also has to do with his job (works weekend) and not having his own transportation.
I don't get that one. It's
I don't get that one. It's a-ok for the NCP to move if they get offered a better job but not for the CP- even if CP is employed. Why should CP have to...be more stuck in what they think is a shitty job? Divorce is just that...divorce. People should be allowed to move onward and upward with their lives.
I do think kids need both
I do think kids need both parents, I just feel that maybe more Cps would have an incentive to move on and better their lives if it was easier for them to move. I also feel that a lot of these rules lump good, non-pASing Cps in with the bad ones.
Our BM-CP moved just for the
Our BM-CP moved just for the sake of moving and didn't even mention it until the house was bought. The agreement says they are suppose to discuss/agree to moves/change in schools, etc. Our BM thinks the agreement only applies to DH.
"Our BM thinks the agreement
"Our BM thinks the agreement only applies to DH."
Haha, this is how our BM is too.
I recently went through this
I recently went through this and my Ex filed a motion with the courts and won.
About 6 months after my son was killed, I found a job, and a home within a block from my oldest
daughter in Fla. I really wanted to get out of my town and be near my daughter and gkids.
It is just me and my dd9 at the time. My mom and aunts and uncles and cousins and of course my
ODD is down there.
The judge basically said I could go but couldnt take DD (9at the time)
Ex had many reasons at the time, but I was angry, but at the same time I understood where he was
coming from. I would have done the same thing if he had custody and was going to take her 900 miles from me.
I couldnt leave her behind, so I ended up losing my deposit on the home and turning down the job.
I will get there some day
When I met my husband, BM had
When I met my husband, BM had just moved an hour away to live with her boyfriend. She said it was because she was broke and didn't want to get a full time job, so she needed him to help support her. At the time, she told my husband that he could only see SD EOWE when they had previously had 50/50 custody. He immediately went to a lawyer for an emergency injunction to get his 50/50 back. I don't think BM's reason for moving was good enough. Her family lives where we live, so she moved away from them as well. I'm not complaining though, because I'm thrilled that she doesn't live in the same town as us and it means SD only comes EOWE now.
We're now looking at moving a half hour in the opposite direction to be closer to my job. I'm not sure how BM is going to react to it. It won't change the amount of time SD spends at our house.
What if the CP is in a job
What if the CP is in a job they don't like but they decide to search for a better one, or get offered a better one?
The CP is usually based on
The CP is usually based on which parent provides a more stable life. Not necessarily because they are the ones who wanted a divorce or to be CP. My DH was cheated on so separation was not his choice. He went to court to maintain 50/50 but was also given CP and it's mainly because BM keeps bouncing around AND because DH has lived in the same place for 5+ years.
It is very doable, Could have
It is very doable, Could have worked out nicely.
I offered every summer break, Christmas Break, Spring Break and Fall Break. Which actually came out to more time for Ex with DD.
AND offered to stop support for the summer break. AND pay half for round trip tickets each visit.
I think it was more EXs controlfreakness than anything else.
He is a nibby one, has to know what DD is doing at all times......
My agreement says I can't
My agreement says I can't move more than 50 miles. It also says that my exH can't unreasonably disagree with my moving if it is for a legitimate reason. My exH was afraid that I would move back to where I grew up after the divorce-about 180 miles, 3 hours away. I never cared if it was in the agreement. I figured if I ever decided I wanted to move, we could discuss it and figure it out.
I have a deadbeat NCP so he
I have a deadbeat NCP so he never cared where I went with my kids.
I think it is unfair for parents to move so far away from each other that it becomes difficult for the kids and the NCP to have a regular routine of visits. Kids can live just fine with just one parent (mine did) BUT they should be able to have BOTH in their lives.
BM tried to move to Florida with the Skids. DH put a stop to it immediately. The judge told her she could go if she wanted but the kids had to stay with DH. Sometimes I wish he had just let her leave, but it wouldn't have been fair to him and his kids.
What is it about whacko bms
What is it about whacko bms wanting to move to Florida? It seems like that's where they all want to go.
LOL, no idea. But she LOVES
LOL, no idea. But she LOVES Miami. She's a ghetto hood rat.
My mom moved me 5000 miles to
My mom moved me 5000 miles to a different country after she remarried. My dad spent thousands in court trying to stop her. He lost, and visitation ended about two years after that. I think it was just too much effort.
Bm moved half an hour away as
Bm moved half an hour away as soon as I entered the picture for no reason really. Now she is moving an hour away from us to live with her boyfriend. She's allowed to move this far. We want to move too but I just wish we wanted to live where she moved. It's in the middle of nowhere and just not somewhere we want to live. We will probably move and try to keep about half an hour away from them. She has to stay within the boundaries of certain counties.