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Officially Two Years! How did YOU find ST?

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 5:25am

Well, I've been a ST member for 2years and 11hours now. I found ST because I was googling "18 month old won't stop crying" for SS4, what I found online was things like "if you're still breast feeding blah blahh" ..then I was like, hmm, I'm gona have to be more specific.. so I typed in "18 month old stepson won't stop crying" 

..wow I'm so glad I did that, when the first google hit showed a link to ST, I was literally hooked on reading blogs for months lol! What I learned about dealing with a demanding crazy ass BM, saved my relationship with FDH. 

I didn't have the confidence to make an account for about 6months, but I'm so thankful I found this place and joined up.. as when I very first met FDH, I thought I had to do everything she said/ wanted coz she was "the mom" ..I was a BM doormat until I learned what I learned here, and put a stop to the crazy. (hoo boy, she was NOT impressed, lol!)

So how did YOU find StepTalk?

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Submitted by SecondGeneration on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 5:57am

I found you all by googling ideas on helping with potty training.
My partner had been FT CP until BM found out about me, she was able to regain custody due to my partners working hours and her "missed time", they werent ever married but separated when SD was a few months old, BM was able to see her whenever she wanted which sometimes was often, sometimes wasnt, this pattern continued for the two years until I came onto the scene.
Im a step kid and can remember alot of drama from my parents split, my step sister is also a step mother and the things she has been through with their BM is stuff of nightmares so I decided that when I found this site that I should stick it in my favourites and try to gain as much awareness. Thus far we have been blessed with no BM drama but we are only at the beginning lol

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Submitted by tabby yabba do on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 6:47am

What pushed me here was when I caught my SD12 (then 10) abusing her cat. I already knew something was wrong with her and the amount of power/control she had over her younger sister and my (now)DH. I googled "I hate my step daughter" and bam, here I am.

What a relief for me to learn Mini-wives do exist and SMs aren't evil. And that DH/SO/BF are almost always the source of our discontent, not the skids. It all starts with the bio parents parenting, or lack thereof, that make SMs a little crazy.

I've learned a ton from this site and will be forever grateful for finding the members here. Well, most of them anyway Smile

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Submitted by clydella on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 7:32am

I googled "Problem SD" and whamo, I found Stalk. Stalk helped me realize I'm not evil, I'm very normal and it's my SD that's the evil one Wink

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 8:16am

I googled "I can't stand my step son"

That was almost 4 years ago and I still can't stand him.

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Submitted by MarriedaBalless... on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 9:09am

I embarrassed to say I googled "I hate my stepson".

I'm in a better place now and I do actually love him. This site really helped me improve the whole step misery.

Here I found wonderful articles and very supportive members. We are kindred spirits.

Thanks, Steptalk! Or should I say Thank God for Steptalk!

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 9:42am

I was googling for court order stuff, seeing what's the norm from real people instead of a lawyer's webpage.

I didn't make an account until much later, when I needed to ask a question, so I've been here about 4 years total.