FDH took SD to her counseling appointment today. And when he was done, he told me the counselor is going to call him before her next appointment to find out why FDH is concerned and thinks SD needs counseling.

I told him I thought that was a little weird because I don't know why he wouldn't want to get that info from FDH either today or yesterday when he made her appointment. I've never had a counselor see me "cold" like that, even when I was under 18; my mom would talk to a counselor BEFORE I went in so that the counselor knew what my mom's concerns were. My current counselor and I exchanged emails before my first appointment so she would know what I was coming in with in terms of general issues. Even one of the other counselors asked FDH questions on the phone last night - right in the middle of our date, so lovely :|.

So he tells me "Well, I did leave him basic information on the phone about the divorce (I hate it when he says he and GUBM divorced because they were never fricken married), the sharing of time, the fact that she has no peers and that you and she have had a fair share of issues."

That last bit ticked me off a little so I responded:

Me: "At the risk of pissing you off, did you really put it that way or the actual way - that SHE has issues with ME? Because from my persepctive, which you have vouched for as well, she has had a fair share of issues with me. I have an issue being treated like dirt by her when I've done nothing wrong."
FDH: "I can't remember exactly what I said, sorry. I didn't think it was needed to go into a lot of detail at the time. It was just a voicemail."
Me: "That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm saying that "she has issues with my fiance" and "she and my fiance have issues with each other" are two different statements."

Maybe I'm reacting poorly because I'm stressed out because of the nonstop SD drama and because I don't feel well today as a result, but, it just irks me. I'm not going to delude myself into thinking that SD is just suddenly over any issues of hate, jealousy, or resentment that she harbored last year or that she's not easily falling back into those behaviors because she had them a LOT longer than she has been decent towards me. And honestly, I think her counselor, whomever it ends up being, should know the reality of the situation. That SD treats me like complete and utter garbage and lies about me to anyone who will listen unless I'm showering her with gifts and blowing smoke and rainbows up her ass.

And then FDH starts telling me crap: "She might try to talk to you about him as well. Not saying she said that, but, since she is going and largely liking it, if she had questions I think she might try and talk to you about it. She views you as an expert in the field."

She does not view me as an expert, she thinks I'm delusional and have no idea what I'm talking about when it comes to psychology.

FDH: "I know being with her these months at a time you may be frustrated with her, but she is frustrated with herself and the boredom of her life. She is lazy but knows she is better than this and I think she is a bit deluded, but she can come around."

So, what, she's like my sister then? She gets bored so she acts like an asshole to cause excitement in her life? Don't care and certainly not interested. In fact, if SD had any friends, she'd probably be the one stirring shit and causing problems to make life "exciting." And no, FDH, I'm not frustrated with her being here, I'm frustrated with her TREATING ME LIKE GARBAGE and the constant drama she is causing! UGH!

FDH: "Well, maybe she just needs drama in her life"

Well, if that's the case then she needs to leave me the hell alone because I am TIRED of being targeted by this brand of crazy. I'm 31, I was targeted by my sister growing up, by GUBM's asshat antics, by crazy assholes who I thought were friends, and now an overly entitled attention - and now possibly drama - whore of an SD. DONE with that.