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I love this forum. I really love it. It has helped me in so many ways and I thank all of you for sharing your experiences, listening to each others irrational emotion-fueled rants, addressing more serious problems, giving advise, allowing me to share my advise, providing a sense of comradery and community. I can't imagine what life would have been like if I had remained isolated in my own thoughts: Am I the crazy one here? Why isn't this step-situation playing out the way I thought it would?

DH is currently seeking support groups, forums, a place to vent, etc. The problem so far seems to be that he can't find a group that's a good fit for him. There are lots of groups where the guys talk about custody, logistics, legal battles, how the deck is stacked against them, and various other situations that all of us are very well aware of. We have that in here too but we also have something that is very much lacking in the guy groups he's checked out so far: vulnerability, emotional support, empathy.

He wants to talk about interpersonal relationships. He wants to talk about PAS. He wants to talk about the pain he feels when his kids act like shits to him. He wants to talk about the pain he feels when I can't understand his role as a father. He wants to talk about things that many men don't seem very well equipped to talk about.

Honestly, this group would be a very good fit for him but I do NOT want him here. I just don't. Most of his friends have always been women. He has trouble with the shallow, surface level, macho guy talk so he only has one close male friend who is a sensitive emotional guy. I know this is a publicly searchable forum and I can't keep him out if he happens to find it. I'd just rather head this off by offering up good suggestions to him.

Does anyone know of support groups for guys who aren't afraid of being vulnerable? For guys who need help dealing with the emotional distress that comes along with the situational distress?

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