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PAS- issuing a warning to the offendor

Sweet T's picture

Has anyone ever had their lawyer send the other parent a letter warning them that they are in violation of their decree ( there is verbage in the decree about this) by PASing/ placing the child in the middle because it is causing emotion distress?

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DaizyDuke's picture

I agree and we can probably all guess what he is going to do with any letters... circular file and continue to do what he's doing. I mean how do you even take someone to court over this, because it's like 3rd party information... kid relaying what dad says...just seems like more aggravation that it's worth.

Unfortunately you can't control what one says in their own home. And I'm not trying to say it's OK, I get it, it sucks.

Sweet T's picture

Did it help, or did it just work as documentation down the line of an on going issue when you went to court?

Thumper's picture

Nope

BUT it is one way to get a paper trail started to show cause to modify change of custody AND place the kids in protective custody fully away from the perp.

Hopefully a Therapist is also on board who can diagnosis properly. You must demand Mental Health Professional competency AND accountability.

Pathogenic Parenting is pretty clear, there is no well maybe's about it. IT is not about the fee' fee's of kids who HATE Mom or is scared of going to dads after a well formed loving bond was present before divorce papers were filed.

For further info you can look for info from Dr Craig Childress "Parental Alienation" he will give you all the tools you need to demand accountability!!

Maxwell09's picture

I can only think of filing contempt over and over again until there's a bigger picture of a pattern.

a better life's picture

Yes, we have many by lawyer and direct. Does very little. Straightens up for a few minutes then back to square one. Child abusers seldom stop abusing their victims and there really isn't much that the courts will do about it.

Monchichi's picture

We issued a legal brief and it was ignored. She continues as always doing as she pleases. We've been advices we can file contempt of court charges, the fine is $30 and a night in jail. Our legal fees would be $3500 to get it done.

We would cause even more harm doing it, to the child.

Rags's picture

The only way you are going to harm the child by holding the toxic parent accountable is if you send the kid to jail. Put the toxic parent’s ass in jail... NOW!

$3500.00 is a cheap price to pay to send the message to BioDad that his crap will not be tolerated and he will suffer any and every consequence you can bring to bear for her crap. And most of all... think of the return on investment you will get in entertainment value for that money!!!!!! }:)

Not holding the toxic blended family opposition accountable is what harms the child. Kids who see that standards of behavior will be required and must be followed benefit. Kids who see nothign but coddling, deflection, tolerance of toxic crap, and avoidance of the application of accountability are the ones that are truly damaged.

Monchichi's picture

Rag's that is more than one of our entire salaries for a month with no payment plan. So no thanks. He is home schooled which means she would be arrested in front of an 8 year old little boy who is intellectually under developed for his age.

Trust me when I say we looked at all angles.

Disillusioned's picture

Yup, my sister did this when her ex would not stop bad-mouthing her to her son. The situation was pretty extreme though, and she was having a lot of difficulties with her son. It did help in the major ones, but I'm sure my ex brother-in-law is still doing this on a smaller level Sad