No, DH. I DON'T think giving a Skid with emotional problems weapons is OK.
So, SS16 is a troubled kid. He is diagnosed as ADHD, but more likely falls on the high functioning Autism/Asbergers spectrum. He is not a violent child per se, but he does have anger issue and rage fits. When he gets angry he quickly spirals out of control.
This kid growls at people, makes threatening fists, will tell you "I really want to beat your face in, but I won't", and has been found standing in the hallway staring at my open door glassy eyed just... watching. Staring. With no expression. It's beyond creepy.
I've told my DH that I don't trust SS16 and that if anything ever happens to me, the kid did it. He knows I don't feel completely safe around him.
So what does DH do tonight? SS16 asks DH to "find" his missing throwing stars that BM gave him that went "missing". We took them away and hid them off of our property. So, what does DH do? He never threw them away, he stored them at his brothers and tonight he BROUGHT THEM HOME.
WTF???
DH, are you DUMB? This SKid does not need access to weapons! He has a history of poor decision making, lack of impulse control, and a weak connection with reality! This is the same DH who thought it "might be a good idea to teach him how to use a gun and crossbow". You know... so he can learn to RESPECT THEM. More like so he can learn how to BETTER KILL ME, ASSHOLE!!!!
Is anyone elses DH this blind to their kid? What is it with men? DO they not think?
(On a side note... any weapons are safely in safes that require a key AND a combination lock.)
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"Sleep with one eye open,
"Sleep with one eye open, gripping your pillow tight" Why does Metallica come to mind?
BM bought SS10 who has high
BM bought SS10 who has high functioning autism a compound bow and arrow set with extra arrows and sent them to us. I flipped! DH actually considered letting him keep and use it. This kid went through a whole year last year of skid marks and forgetting to wipe his rear and your considering letting him use a bow and freaking arrow set in our suburban neighborhood? Needless to say its gone!
My step son has Asberger's
My step son has Asberger's from what all his doctors say a very mild case that he will eventually overcome or outgrow. In other words at some point his maturity level will raise up to that of an adult and he will be able to fully function as an adult.
He was 15 when I started dating my now wife. He also had violent verbal fits of rage. He also has an extensive knife and sword collection that all members of his family contributed to helping him accumulate. Birthday presents and Christmas presents. When he was 16 or so, his verbal anger turned to physical. He raised his fist to his mother and she stepped into the ring and taught the young man a lesson on what physical violence was. Secondary lesson of never raise your hand to a woman was taught 24 hours later when his bio father got a hold of him. Tertiary lesson of never lay your hands on *my* woman was delivered a few days later.
Today, you would never know the young man had such issues. He acts quite mature. His bills are paid on time, his grades in college are excellent, he has a steady relationship. However, he is still Asberger's. A lot of his mature behavior is acted out. He has notes in his house reminding him of how a man acts. Reminding him of what the difference between a need and a want are. His parents and doctors gave him tools to use so he would not be a statistic. These behaviors do not come naturally to him. He *acts* very mature, however put a box of Lego's on the floor or any fantasy role playing video game around him and he will get lost for hours if not days.
He was 21 before I placed a gun in his hand and began the process of teaching him gun care and how to shoot. He does not own a gun. He himself put away his knife and sword collection. He is aware of his limitations and until your step son reaches this point: no weapons.
The "jackasses" (BM's nasty
The "jackasses" (BM's nasty younger twin half-sisters) gave SS15 an Airsoft hand gun when he was 13. Now this kid is a bully and is always hurting his younger siblings and my pets. DH let him keep it a and the younger ones would complain he was shooting them with it. I kept finding dried bloody spots on my pets. I'd find the stupid pellets in the bottom of my parrot's cage. DH wasn't doing anything. One day I hear my 5 lb Pomeranian yelp, I grab her and see the top of her head is bleeding and the damn pellet is embedded in the skin. I lost it. Grabbed the gun, stomped on it and broke it, threw the jar of pellets away in front of DH and the kids and said that they could all pack up and move out. DH paid for the vet bill and no one ever brought a weapon into my house again.