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Hi. I'm wendy Lou and after reading a few blogs in here, I see a lot of you are in the same canoe as myself.my 15 year old sd is amazingly mean. And when I say mean, I mean "MEAN". Ex: a mother of 8 came to my door last night upset that my sd was calling her daughters "monkeys" at the school bus stop which caused her daughter to want to kick my 15 yo sd ass! Ha! I should of let her. Finding out that this has been going on for a month doesn't surprise me, it's the fact that myself and dh were not aware of this sooner.
You see 15 yo has this very special way about her. Although she is a straight A student, her mindset towards others is waaaaaaaay off. It's as though she gets off knowing she can hurt and control others. Oooooooo the things she does, I can write a book as I'm sure many of you can so I will try to keep this short.
Even though I have been in her life for 7 years, she doesn't listen to me or learn from my example. We got full custody for a reason, can we say "dead beat bio mom that enjoys smoking pot, causing drama , lying, and handfuls of men?" That's just me being an ass but truthful nonetheless. I think 15 yo saw this life of BM and decided to "take it to the mattresses". 15 yo has become a master of manipulation and story telling that she could make a great living off of it if it were a career! I swear she will make for a great attorney one day with the excuses we get to hear as to why she did something and why it is someone else's fault. It gets old trying to battle this all the time. It gets old trying to please her and feeling sorry for her because her BM was never a real mom to her( every time I use BM it reminds me of the abbreviation bowel movement in nursing, sorry! Lol). I have spent too much time, money, and effort trying to help her become a better and more responsible young lady that could be trusted to watch her younger siblings instead of me and dh paying for a sitter, to get her permit, and to have more freedoms.
She's fake. She knows what to say to who and when to try and get what she wants to. Ah ha, I'm too smart and she knows it. I am as sly as the vulpes vulpes when it comes to her rehearsed lines of manipulation. That's when her animosity turned towards me.
She has chores to earn money. She won't do them so she earns zero. She gets angry because I won't give in to her excuses as to why I should give her money( remember, I'm 40 and NOT as smart as a 15 yo, lol). She will fight with my 10 yo sd in the mornings, telling her what she can and cannot wear, what she should be doing, put her down with sarcastic and hateful comments,and wakes my 3 yo old with all the kaos. To me, that's disrespecting others and disrespecting my house. It is my house btw. They moved in 4 years ago with dh in hopes I could help stabilize their lives while making one as a "family".
I have tried different remedies, all in which you have tried and it worked for awhile but never lasted. She is in the mindset of torturing others if she does not get what she wants and will control and manipulate to the point of lie after lie.
I'm done. I let her know this just recently. I told her that I am done trying. I am done feeling sorry for her and trying to please a person that cannot be pleased. I am done forking over my money to make sure she has what she needs and it is never good enough. I am done trying and her NOT trying. I told her for 7 years I have been kissing her ass and now I'm done eating ass and she will have to do without my money, things I do for her, and my trying to understand her UNTIL I see change.
She didn't like that. In fact, she told the 10 yo that I am a piece of doodoo stepmother because it is my responsibility to take care of her.
Thoughts?