thanks sunny I'm supposed to go over there when dh gets home to have a sit down. I hope this clears the air and I find out who he is. I'm way more upset that everyone knew but me and they made me jump trough hoops to find out.
(((big hug))) to you, sure is a lot to be going through. I hope you find out the whole truth that you deserve to know. I like the advice that was given of how to approach your mom for further answers. My mom has BPD pretty bad in my opinion so I can understand how quick your mom can be to fly off the handle. Sorry for any assumptions especially if I'm wrong, she does sound like she has some type of personality disorder. It's hard asking people like that just simple questions and add in this situation, please ease into the conversation in the least threatening way possible for better chances of getting to the bottom of it. A secret that was kept from you all these years will take some time for your mom to share. A little tip, with my mom I approach her giving her benefit of doubt which has helped her not be so quick to become defensive. This will be a trigger point for your mom and whatever her reasoning for keeping it from you was/is, its still an unresolved issue that weighs on her mind. Please don't take that energy of hers to heart, you did not do anything wrong yet she might try to dump that on you. Best of luck and keep strong.
All of us is on your side with this, take things one step at a time. You can do it.
just for anyone who is thinking of keeping something like this from their kid(s) the truth will come out one way or another so please dont put your kid through what I have been put through. It would have been so much better if I had just known along.
thank you starla I do think that since my brother told dad that I know that it will go smoother
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No gma told my brothers but
No gma told my brothers but not me. Everyone knew but me. I'm going to throw up now
Still haven't talked to mom
Still haven't talked to mom yet ugh so i still don't know who my bio is.
thanks sunny I'm supposed to
thanks sunny I'm supposed to go over there when dh gets home to have a sit down. I hope this clears the air and I find out who he is. I'm way more upset that everyone knew but me and they made me jump trough hoops to find out.
I'm sorry (((HUGS)))
I'm sorry (((HUGS)))
(((big hug))) to you, sure is
(((big hug))) to you, sure is a lot to be going through. I hope you find out the whole truth that you deserve to know. I like the advice that was given of how to approach your mom for further answers. My mom has BPD pretty bad in my opinion so I can understand how quick your mom can be to fly off the handle. Sorry for any assumptions especially if I'm wrong, she does sound like she has some type of personality disorder. It's hard asking people like that just simple questions and add in this situation, please ease into the conversation in the least threatening way possible for better chances of getting to the bottom of it. A secret that was kept from you all these years will take some time for your mom to share. A little tip, with my mom I approach her giving her benefit of doubt which has helped her not be so quick to become defensive. This will be a trigger point for your mom and whatever her reasoning for keeping it from you was/is, its still an unresolved issue that weighs on her mind. Please don't take that energy of hers to heart, you did not do anything wrong yet she might try to dump that on you. Best of luck and keep strong.
All of us is on your side with this, take things one step at a time. You can do it.
just for anyone who is
just for anyone who is thinking of keeping something like this from their kid(s) the truth will come out one way or another so please dont put your kid through what I have been put through. It would have been so much better if I had just known along.
thank you starla I do think that since my brother told dad that I know that it will go smoother
I have his name
I have his name
It went do much better than I
It went do much better than I could have asked for. Mom was honest and told me everything and that he has no idea. And I have a brother.