Faking Enjoying Attention-Seeking Behavior
Ughhh i'm so weary of being fake. SD7: Hey mom, look at this new dance I came up with. SD7 dances and I have to smile and fake and say "great job, that was wonderful!". Getting her to open a book is impossible. Getting her to sit still is impossible. She is in a great mood as long as she has an audience. Even when she plays with BD2, she always looks back at us to see if we're watching her engage. I'm a musician and i've been singing since I was 2. But I've always appreciated great music with great vocals. She only wants to listen to Disney and Kids Bop type music which, I don't hold against her at all, but she's not a natural performer- she just likes attention. If she were truly interested in music, I would teach her about it, but she's not. She thinks everything she does is cute, DH validates it and it's annoying.
You give BD2 an iPad, she will sit there, look at it, read it, play with the flash card app and sit still. Then here comes SD7, always interrupting BD2, giving her a kiss (and when it's on the lips that bothers the shit out of me).
I'm really fearful that she's going to be promiscuous like her mother and i'm going to be a stepgrandma. One day I will work up the nerve to tell her that shaking her ass is not a skill.
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Let her know kissing your
Let her know kissing your baby on the mouth is not ok.
That's so gross to me I've never understood why some parents teach their kids that it's ok.
She picked that up when she
She picked that up when she came back from her grandparent's house. DH knows I don't like it, but he kisses them on the mouth too. I hate it. It drives me crazy. That's so gross. My lips are only for DH.
(shudder) Giving me
(shudder) Giving me flashbacks here!
Hey SD thanks for the show
Hey SD thanks for the show but if you mow the lawn, I'd be impressed!
My BS just turned 7 and
My BS just turned 7 and lovesssss attention, he can and does drive me nuts too sometimes. He always wants me or DH or whoever to watch him do whatever it is he's doing, sometimes its cute/cool, sometimes its like 'really?' I feel bad sometimes though when I am busy or not in the mood, he's the sweetest thing, and I try to get him to understand not EVERYTHING he does needs an audience. Sometimes I call it "the 'hisname' show" lol. My BD was never like that, still isn't.
Both SDS were 'booty shakers' at a young age, drove DH and I nuts, they liked to dress 'up' which meant like hoochies, YSD would try to wear her shorts rolled up with whatever heels she could get her hands on, it was not a good look. When we corrected them or didn't let them flaunt about at our house, all it did was teach them not to do it at our house. BM let them dress/act however they wanted at her house. She thought it was cute. She even let them watch "girls gone wild" at her house, and they would watch it over and over at 5 and 7. They told us (cuz they loved being defiant, they knew we wouldn't approve or like it and thought it was funny I guess) then they came to our house once and imitated something they saw, we crawled all over them, they told BM, she said "they're just kids, so what." Uh, exactly, they are kids, DUH!!!
SD7 gets the Hoochie desire
SD7 gets the Hoochie desire from her mama. Her mama is a hot ghetto mess. And a serious hoochie. She wore heels and a teeny jumpsuit for SD's birthday. It was at Monkey Joes (a place with indoor jump castles and stuff). I was like "you're not invited next year"
My SS is 20 and STILL like
My SS is 20 and STILL like this. I used to hide in my own home just to get a little quiete time when he lived with us.
Typical convo.
SS walk into room...
Me: Hi SS
SS: Hi Willow, Look at my new shoes they cost $150.00
Me: Cool
SS: Did you notice I got my hair cut? Do you like it?
Me: Yes I do, very much.
SS: Did you see the scratch on my Arm? It burns but I put some cream on it so it is better.
ME: Cool.
This could go on for 15 minutes or more. but it was ALWAYS. "LOOK AT ME"
This conversation would be repeated when ever someone else came in the room.
this it's what's happening.
this it's what's happening. She is turning into BM's Mini-me.
"she always looks back at us
"she always looks back at us to see if we're watching her engage"
(((SHUDDER))) Giving me MORE Post Traumatic Skid Related flashbacks!!!
Ugh same here. Some of the
Ugh same here. Some of the stuff is normal, as irritating as it can be. But I constantly see her looking at us to make sure that we're able to see whatever stupid shit she's doing. I'm sick of having to pretend to enjoy it or be made to continually validate her ridiculous, infantile behaviour. Start acting your age, then I might praise you for that! It's nice to play along when they're doing things that are normal for their age, but sorry, love, I'm not going to play along with you acting like a child half your age, just to have all the attention on you!