I'm so thankful that I was open with him about all of my thoughts and fears. Someone suggested that I talk to him and we did but the fist conversation left me feeling worse because it added to my list of questions. However, we talked again...and then again...and then again. I started the conversation last night with the statement "You're gonna hate me for what I'm about to say!" He assured me that there was nothing I could say that would make him hate me! I revised the statement "You're not going to "like" me very much then!" He thought I was about to ask for a divorce, instead I told him I didn't want his children to come back to our home. I went on to explain that the BM had snatched them away from us after the stolen ring incident and that wasn't right to do. He faithfully pays his child support and has seen the girls everyday since their divorce except during seperate vacations. He's never been away from them til now. They haven't been back to our house since SD apologized to me for stealing the ring and BM said she wanted to keep them close to her until she could determine why SD14 was acting out. I told him that BM's selfishness was cruel and uncalled for and was an attempt to really punish him for adjusting the boundaries and his availability to HER.(dropping off and picking up and transporting and the 7-day back and forth, all of which meant he saw his Ex every single day. He did all the running around while she had very few responsibilities. He was at her beck and call daily, EVEN THOUGH she remarried many years ago.) When I finished talking I asked him what he thought about what I said. THAT's when I found out what the problem is. He said he'd been feeling really guilty about enjoying his freedom from them ALL. He went further to say he doesn't want to see them during his summer break AT ALL and felt like he'd earned that break but he really feels guilty about it. I reassured him that he had no reason to feel bad, he's a great dad! His demeanor brightened up, we talked most of the night and when I woke up his arms were tightly around me...so were his legs!!! lol When the alarms went off the conversations continued. THIS is the man I married. Whew...I'm happy to see him back.