Letter to the Children
Dear BS, BD and SS,
Lost toys is a YOU problem. It is not a ME problem. It is not an emergency. Nor does it even register on my radar of parental responsibilities. If you misplace a precious “made-in-China” doo-dad, you are on your own. I am not “Google house”. I have no idea where you place your stuff and neither do I care. I have told you all repeatedly to look after your toys and to put them away when you are done. The kitchen area is the Bermuda Triangle of toys. You leave something there, I throw it out. The kitchen is the place where I cook YOUR meals and I insist on having it clean and clutter-free. You don’t want me to throw Kinder-surprises into your pancakes. Nor do I feel like slipping on a ball pooper when handling a boiling pot of pasta. So look after your toys and keep them out of the kitchen.
While we are on the subject. I have yet to understand your insistence of having to play with that one specific toy that one of your siblings is playing with. You could be watching TV but if your sibling starts playing with, lego, a Hot Wheels car, or a tinker bell lunch box, why-o-why do you have to play with that toy too at the Exact. Same! Time?!? WHY!?!? Watching you guys fight over your precious shiny objects insisting that they are “mine” does little to help your toys estimated life-expectancy. No, I am not talking about you guys breaking them. I am talking about me swooping in and grabbing whatever object it is you guys refuse to share and throwing it out. Like I said, I just don’t care anymore. Poor little children in Ashabenjagolistan are happy to play with pebbles and sticks. You guys, have HUNDREDS of freaking toys that can keep a full service daycare occupied for hours – but no – you can’t share and you fight over them like Australian Dingos!
Oh and one last thing; the rough-housing. I know how much you guys LOVE to play-wrestle with each other. I know how much fun it is. But if one of you starts crying, for the love of God and all his three-legged sheep! STOP!
That is all. Play on. Play nicely, and play fairly...otherwise Dadda is gonna play dirty!
Love and agrevation,
- - Draco
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Love it. It's all fun and
Love it. It's all fun and games until someone pokes out an eye, right? LMAO
I have nothing to add to your interesting letter, but if I could write one to stepdevil14, it wouldn't be a light and fun, but would go something like this:
Dear Stepdevil14,
I'm so very sorry you have chosen to believe every single lie that comes out of your mother's mouth and in turn, decided to hate your father and I. He's a very loving, caring and sweet man and I've watched you consistently and continually CRUSH his heart over and over again into a million pieces, spit and dance on said pieces and then walk away as if he never mattered to you at all.
Now that you've decided that being up your mother's ass full time is heaven, it would be very nice of you to quit manipulating your grandfather , aunt, uncle, and 86-87 yr old great-greatparents into believing your lies about your dad and I, as well as trying to "spend time" (i.e. get money and rewards from them) with them for the sole purpose of supplying your incessant need for attention and to remain a factor in their wills (as per your mother's wishes).
No, we have never called you "fat" or "ignorant" despite what you told your mother's attorney and no, throwing up after dinner ONCE does not make you bulimic. You're an attention whore and cannot fathom the idea of sharing your father with ANYONE, much less me and my beautiful daughter, of whom you are insanely jealous, even though she's done nothing but be nice to you.
Yes, we moved into a 1 bedroom apartment last fall when it had been several months after you'd refused to come for visitation, claiming your dad called you a "slut" and a "whore" (to which you also said you "misunderstood" him - which is a flat out lie). No, we are NOT maintaining you having your own room at our place so we can continue paying an additional $200 per month, PLUS pay your mother full child support as well so you can refuse to ever come over again.
My wish for you is that you GROW THE FUCK UP someday and realize what an awesome dad you treated like shit, threw away and cast aside. Only then, I hope that he's totally fed up with your abuse, lies and manipulation and decides to write you off completely so I don't have to see him cry and sink into a deep depression after you reject his love and hurt him once more.
Karma is a bitch, young one, and she will come eventually to pay you back for all you've done to your father and I. I just hope I'm able to watch and laugh when it happens.
Sincerely,
A stepmom who did her best to love and befriend you, only to be kicked repeatedly in the teeth and stabbed in the back by a stepdaughter who was spoiled rotten and never accountable for her actions.
You call it light-hearted but
You call it light-hearted but it is SO telling!
Nicely done!
QUOTE: >I hope that he's totally fed up with your abuse, lies and manipulation and decides to write you off completely so I don't have to see him cry and sink into a deep depression after you reject his love and hurt him once more.<
I know a couple of fathers that this has happened to. I can't imagine what that feels like.
I think eventually I will end
I think eventually I will end up sending her a letter like that. It may be later on in life when she's older and can really feel the ramifications of her bad behavior and poor treatment of her father and I, but yes, I can see sending her something similar to get my feelings heard.
As to how it feels to have your daughter completely reject you - my DH came close to totally losing his shit a few months ago. Literally broke down in tears at work, his boss told him to take a few personal days, so he drove around aimlessly for days. He claims to have "worked through" things and will NEVER go back to that, but I seriously was worried about him.
And yet even after the meeting with BM and her attorney, with BM saying SD believes he doesn't love her, we called her names, etc - he STILL texts SD last night saying "I love you and miss you and wish you'd talk to me".
Do you think it's a smart thing for him to continue chasing after her??????? I'm torn.
>Do you think it's a smart
>Do you think it's a smart thing for him to continue chasing after her??????? I'm torn.<
No. She'll come around eventually. All daughters need their fathers. Otherwise woe betide her future boyfriend and the "Daddy issues" he's going to have to deal with.
Drac0, what would you suggest
Drac0, what would you suggest I say (if anything at all) to DH about him continually texting his daughter begging for her love and communication?
Should I just remain silent and let him do as he pleases or should I say something like "Maybe you should do as you said you would and let HER reach out to you, since she continually ignores every form of communication YOU keep sending."??????????
Try this. "Honey, think of
Try this.
"Honey, think of the cell phone as a knife. Each time you use it to text your daughter, you are really only stabbing yourself with it and hurting yourself. I love you and I feel your pain, but you and ONLY YOU can stop stabbing yourself."
Very good advice. I will
Very good advice. I will definitely approach him that way.
He still sees nothing wrong with the fact that his dad picked stepdevil up and spent time with her prior to his niece's birthday party (held at his dad's) because stepdevil said she didn't want to come to the party because we'd be there.
He wants to encourage a relationship with his dad and stepdevil - I agree. But, for granddad to indulge this kid this way and enable her to continue treating her dad like shit - that's what I disagree with.
i heart you Redwings!!!!
i heart you Redwings!!!!
I heart you back sweets!
I heart you back sweets!
Preach it brother!
Preach it brother!
I love that letter drac0 lol.
I love that letter drac0 lol. My turn.
Dear SS5 and SS10 and BS5months
SS5 your baby brother is 5months he can't even talk so I doubt he purposely does anything to bother you. Stop saying we are breaking your hawrt every time we play with the baby you are a big brother now and you need to act like it. Do not ever snacth anything out of his hand again I'm tired of telling you that. Do not go crying to daddy when I put you in trouble or vice versa that will only give you an extra ten minutes.
SS10 when you come this summer if you ever try to fart in my face again I have a surprise for you that you won't soon forget. Just because your mother is crazy doesn't mean you get to come here and act crazy. Do not ever call my baby ugly ever again it’s neither cute nor funny. I do care for you and your dad loves you so much do not forget that you are loved and missed trust me you are. The next time you and DH decide to have a burping contest in front of me I am popping you both in the back of the head. But anyways behave and I will. ILY
BS5months. Really do you have to cry every time I put you down? Do you have to fart on me so hard it vibrates and then laugh? Did you really have to pee in my face and laugh? I'm starting to think you're smarter than I give you credit for. I don't know why you cry when I pull you off my boob that you just gummed the crap out off. I should be the one crying. I love you sweet baby now please let me sleep for more than 4 hours I know teething hurts but please let mama sleep.
IlY all I promise I do.
Love the women who wishes you would bother daddy more often
newbiestepmom25 *kisses*
Your whole section on BS5
Your whole section on BS5 could have been easily written by my DW one year ago! LOL
"Google House" LOL LOVE it!
"Google House" LOL LOVE it! I will be using that term in real conversation. I agree with your whole letter. I could use it verbatim! Great job!