I thought I'd give an update to all the wonderful ladies that offered me their support and advice on my previous blog regarding SD and DH.

Unfortunately, the last week has been absolutely awful, which has resulted in me asking DH to leave.

I never knew my DH could be so spiteful, vindictive, and sadistic,.....in fact, right now, I no longer even know who the real DH is anymore.

Basically, since the last blow out, I continued to do things as normal,...y'know, just go about my normal business, and keep things as normal as possible for BS, this seemed to rub DH up the wrong way,I guess he is so used to me caving that it must have driven him mad.So, it reached the point where I would enter the room, and he would turn his back,if he was playing with BS when I walked in, he would stop playing with BS to ignore my presence. When I went out to visit a friend with BS, he then demanded where I had been, that he had a right to know my every move, and that I was being secretive,..........so, this went on, and on,and he became more and more nastier.

Yesterday, he started following me from room to room, staring, smirking, and when I asked him to stop, he then informed me that he would continue to follow me,so, I went to leave the room,he grabbed me, literally stuck his nose against mine and I had to push him off of me,........needless to say, he is GONE.

I have never seen him like this before,....he has always had a tendency to bully when he doesn't get his own way, but this time,it is different,.....he has never been this nasty to me over SD before.

I've thought about this long and hard, and what makes me so mad and sad, is that even after all the talking we have done over the past few years, he has still placed SD's demands over the happiness and well being of not just me, but BS- Mother's Day is now ruined, BD's birthday and the plans that were arranged,...ruined,.....peace in the house this last week,.....ruined,..........all for what? 'Me' daring to disengage from SD because DH refuses to even address her behaviour both in and out of the home towards me......ugh,......it's just wrong, on so many levels.

So, it seems I have a choice, I either cave in, let SD come to the home and see BS,whilst remaining present, and accept that next time she starts undermining me in my own home,or is spiteful to BD,or,starts her crap infront of BS,or, makes decisions with DH about my BS without my say so,I will just have to suck it up,not say anything and allow myself to be bullied by them both,......or,.....I can declare to DH that, actually, I do not negotiate with terrorists, and until he addresses the issues he clearly has regarding the amount of power he has handed over to SD, that I will continue to disengage until further notice...........and you know what?.....I would rather die standing up, than spend a life time on my knees,......he can punish me all he wants, he can even divorce me, this has now gone way beyond SD,this is now about him and his total lack of,respect for me, as his life partner, his wife.