dreading moving, family tv time, and how I pointed out to dh how annoying ss is to me
I bought a house that is half the size home we're in now. This is not bad in some ways b/c now we are down to just two teen boys so it's a reasonably sized home for us, and this helps so the kids who've moved out cannot move back in. However, I have gotten used to living in a home that is big enough so I can escape ss16 when he begins getting on my nerves, which is most of the time. I am not sure how I am going to stand living in a one bathroom home with two teenaged boys :sick: Just hearing ss16 get up in the mornings and pee is about enough to make me want to run outside and barf. I just canNOT wait till he's out of here. I am so done with this kid. He is also getting a very smart ass mouth on him since he seems to know so much more then dad right now. A couple weeks ago we were watching The Walking Dead all weekend to catch up, ss16 sat on the couch for almost the whole weekend with his dad and every time either of us made a comment about the show or anything in general ss16 had to correct us. I finally got up and went into my room to finish watching it there even tho I had wanted to stay downstairs with dh. It was just so bad. I invited bs into my room to watch the last show and then the premier for this season and we ate candies and drank pop! Dh was not happy about it but he just didn't get it when I told him to ask ss to go watch tv in his own room. DH actually looked at me at one point and said that this is what he likes, family sitting and enjoy tv together. When my disabled daughter came over the next day for a few hours I made sure I said to DH, now this is what I like family sitting around enjoying eachother and watching tv. He looked at me like I was nuts and then he got that comprehending look on his face like he knew what I was saying. He actually connected to dots. My daughter chews her food with her mouth open and smacks and without dh realizing it ss16 does the same thing but dh is so used to it he doesn't care.
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You are probably a couple of
You are probably a couple of years early in downsizing.
I was so glad for SS and BIL to leave after they spent 5 days with us in 900 sq. ft - and we have two bathrooms.
Well the house we're in now
Well the house we're in now has 3 bathrooms, 4 bedrooms and a large rec room. The masterbedroom has a walk in closet, large bathroom and reg closet, it's the whole part above the double car garage so you can imagine how big it is and how much I have enjoyed it this past year. HOWEVER, this house is very expensive to rent. We have been barely able to pay bills as it is and now with dh having cancer and hardly working, I cannot pay the bills/rent on my CNA wages. I hardly make more the min wages. It's so sick that us nurse aides who work harder the nurses make less then half what they do. I wipe shitty butts and do all the grunt work and barely get paid. I am planning on a career change soon :/
It's so sick that us nurse
It's so sick that us nurse aides who work harder the nurses make less then half what they do
Heck yea! Nurses aides work their assess off and get the short end of the stick on pay. It's disgusting.
I can barely stand having one
I can barely stand having one bathroom and it's just two of us - me and SO, lol. Of course, I have Crohn's, so, sometimes, it's an imperative to have an extra bathroom or toilet handy (why I'm definitely upgrading to at least 1 and 1/2 baths when I buy a house).
It just sucks that our only spare toilet is our PGH Toilet in the scary dark basement.
And sorry to hear your SS is being such a smartass; I really can't stand that trait with teenagers the whole "i know everything and you're so stupid" attitude. Ugh. All the teenagers I've known since I became an "adult" (whatever that means haha) have been this way and it is annoying as hell.
I know, here I have gone to
I know, here I have gone to college and taken medical classes and on going education and yet every time I open my mouth, when ss16 is in the room, I am saying something wrong according to him. We have our rec room curtained off to keep our heating bill down and he'll be sitting in there quietly playing his game or texting his 3,000 texts per month, and sometimes dh and I won't know he's in there and we'll be having an adult only conversation and suddenly he pipes up and makes a *corrective* remark and I have learned to just get up and walk upstairs instead of saying anything but he ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS says "well, just sayin, you could get your facts straight before talking". SAY WHAT??? Who tells me to get my facts straight and lives to tell the story? Oh right, FSS of course. DH always defends him by saying something like, well he hears this shit at school and thinks it's right and all that shit. Oh it just grinds my organ.
DH needs to stop defending
DH needs to stop defending him and setting his ass straight, instead.
There are respectful and polite ways to offer new information into a conversation, and that is SOOOOO not one of them.
I love my DH so don't get me
I love my DH so don't get me wrong but when it comes to his *baby* he will defend him to the death (not literally but it feels like it at times, thus the reason why I walk away so often), even against me. I have raised this boy more then his own mother ever did, bm has not even seen ss16 in over 3 years, and yet dh thinks I have it in for ss all the time. Yet he can point out negativities about my kids to me and if I defend mine he says that, you always defend your kids and that will only harm them. OMG sometimes I cannot stand how blended family life is for us smoms. We do so much for the kids while hubby is working or unemployed and depressed and in my case hubby has cancer (when he takes his heavy pain meds I have to drive ss16 to his later afternoon church groups) so I am picking up not only the parenting more, but also the finances. UHG
Anyhow back to the smaller house issue, at least I KNOW ss19 cannot move back in with us. His gf miscarried their twins (1 was tubal) so now ss19 and gf are thinking of splitting ways and he already asked dh is he could stay here for a bit AGAIN b/c gf wants to keep the apartment they're in. Luckily DH said NO and for them to work it out or live like room mates until they can save enough to split.